Gratitude is everywhere these days. We're told to make gratitude lists. We're told to stop and smell the roses, and notice all the other sweet little (and big) things in our lives. Which means that we can easily dismiss all of it. The more we read about something, the more we're exposed to something, the more likely we are to say "whatever," and assume it doesn't matter.
For many of us sleep is hard to come up---especially if we're parents. Maybe you pull a split shift, and work late into the night. Maybe you clean your house and tackle other tasks. Maybe you like to zone out in front of the TV. Maybe your mind won't stop racing with all the things you still have to do. Maybe you use your phone to wind down, and find that you've been scrolling for an hour---or two.
Author Sue Monk Kidd once said, “We truly become what we pay attention to." Similarly, in his inspiring book, Keep Going: 10 Ways to Stay Creative in Good Times and Bad, author Austin Kleon writes, "What you choose to pay attention to is the stuff your life and work will be made of."
This weekend I shared a variety of not-so-simple questions we can ask ourselves. Because sometimes in order to delve deeper, in order to build beautiful, meaningful lives, we need to explore potentially difficult topics. We need to ask ourselves some tough questions, and we need to tell ourselves the truth.
I regularly talk about the importance of being honest with ourselves. Because when we take the time (and proceed despite the discomfort) to acknowledge how we're doing, what we're feeling, and what is really going on inside our hearts, we can make wise, supportive decisions. We can take wise, supportive steps. We can meet our needs. We can ask others for what we need (instead of feeling resentful and acting in passive-aggressive ways).