Addictive Relating

5 Reasons Violence and Narcissism Are Not Gender Neutral

Despite misinformation campaigns with political agendas, and an increasing number of Hollywood movies and TV series over the years, in which gorgeous actresses star in roles portraying women as sadistic, conniving, ruthless killers, decades of research continue to reveal: heartless acts of violence are not gender neutral.

Neither is narcissism**, a set of behaviors associated with callous acts and heartlessness.

It's vital for men and women alike to understand the cultural forces that promote and legitimize violence...

Addictive Relating

7 Reasons a Narcissist Engages in Hoovering

Hoovering is a behavior pattern associated with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and its more extreme manifestation on the spectrum, antisocial personality disorder (APD) or psychopathology.

Narcissists** are known to make contact with one or more past partners, or perhaps all, after a period of separation or when they perceive them as getting on with their life.

What sets hoovering apart from the otherwise "normal" behavior of contacting an old friend are the ruthless intentions.

Here are 7 narcissistic reasons a narcissist engages in...

Couples Communication

15 Goals of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is designed to bring out the best in you and your partner, strengthening the quality of your relationship, as a point of balance, allowing you to deal with issues in ways that support you to grow as individuals and a couple.

An emotionally fulfilling couple relationship is very much within reach, yet involves the willingness of both to stretch, and get to know and see, love and value both self and the other as...

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3 Romanticized Fantasies That Make Women Easy Prey for Narcissists

If you're reading this post, you may be seeking to understand and heal yourself from a present or past experience with a narcissist.**

You should know, one of the biggest hurdles, in restoring your sense of self and sanity, lies in letting go of certain disbeliefs and fantasies you were socialized to cling onto as a woman.

The narcissist consistently tells you who he is in what he does. Repeatedly.

You, on the other hand, are socialized to deny...

Addictive Relating

5 Gifts to Inoculate Yourself Against the Toxic Effects of a Relationship With a Narcissist

If you've experienced the trauma of being in a relationship with a narcissist**, the most amazing gifts you can give yourself cannot be bought or wrapped. They are the gifts of self-healing, taking back and guarding your heart and mind, with a focus on restoring your sense of feeling human again, connecting to your life and self, your feelings and thoughts, wants and dreams, and so on, with a mindful awareness...

Emotional Mastery

10 Beliefs of Happy and Successful People

Your happiness is not something to take lightly. Your health, even key relationships, depend on your ability to overall feel good about yourself and life.

Advances in neuroscience methodology in the last few decades have allowed us to study success and happiness. Unlike success, happiness is not a goal. You, and every aspect of you, is wired for happiness.

Think of happiness as you would a trusted friend, and guide, one that can make facing challenges and realizing goals,...

Addictive Relating

Why a Narcissist’s Love is Not Love (Based on Scott Peck’s ‘The Road Less Traveled’)

In a ground-breaking primer on love and personal growth,  The Road Less Traveled, best-selling author and psychiatrist Scott Peck's unwitting gives us the best advice, arguably in terms of what is and is not genuine love, and thus how you can protect yourself and mind and heart from falling for a narcissist's love bombing. Dr. Peck defines genuine love as:
The will to extend one’s self for purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s...

Conscious Lifestyle

7 Ways To Use Laughter to Lower Stress

Laughter is an effective stress management strategy. It's also a free, boosts health and its benefits are available to make you feel better at any time.

Laughter works to lower the levels of stress hormones, such as epinephrine (adrenaline) and cortisol, in the bloodstream, by increasing the levels of health-boosting hormones such as endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin. A short period of laughter can literally boost your happiness in the moment, with lingering effects of feeling good throughout the...