General

Your Relationship: The Best Leverage You Have Over Your Kids


“If you do that again, I’m going to be pretty unhappy.”

I made that bold and daring threat to my younger daughter this morning.

Ok, it’s not officially a threat. It was more like a fairly accurate description of what was likely to happen if she continued to be annoying, but I’m sure her six year-old brain heard it as a threat. Either way, I said it.

I say some...
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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: Kindness and Curiosity (Part 5 of 6)

Welcome to part 5 of my series on the definition of mindfulness: setting an intention to pay attention in the present moment, with kindness and curiosity, so we can then choose our next action or behavior.

In past recent posts, we've chosen to pay attention to the present moment, and we've arrived at the present moment. But it doesn't stop there.

There is a popular misconception that once you get to the present moment,...
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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: The Present Moment (Part 4 of 6)

Well, folks, it’s been over a year and a half since I’ve updated my blog. I could give you all the reasons, from building a new house to moving into it to writing and marketing my second book, but those are just details. The important point is that I’m back. And if I’ve learned anything about parenting and life from my mindfulness practice, it’s that we can always, always begin again.

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Mindfulness: Paying Attention (Part 3 of 6)


In my last post, I explored the importance of setting an intention to pay attention as a crucial part of mindfulness.

Now it’s time to talk about paying attention.

Paying attention is key to mindfulness; if we can’t direct our awareness towards something and then bring it back to that something again and again when it wanders, we will be at the mercy of the distractions of life.

I see this in my daughters all the...
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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: Setting an Intention (Part 2 of 6)


I’m currently sitting in a coffee shop. I have my laptop on the table right in front of me. The screen is bright and glowing. Even so, here are a few of the things distracting me from my writing:

-- The background music.
-- The woman sitting at the table behind me watching the news on her iPad. She has the volume turned up quite high.
-- My phone, which just beeped to alert me about an incoming text...
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Mindfulness

Mindfulness: The Definition (Part 1 of 6)


“Living in the moment.”
“Living with whatever comes your way, without trying to change it.”
“Accepting everything.”
“Being happy / content / joyful all the time.”

These are some of the phrases that I’ve heard people mention when they talk about mindfulness.

While all of them have something to do with mindfulness, none of them are quite accurate. And that’s a problem.

These misconceptions are a big part of the reason why mindfulness gets such a bad rap in the press at times.

They’re...
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Parenting

In Defense of Time-Outs. Sometimes.


I’m in the mud right now with my four year old. She’s been talking back and having tantrums on a daily basis. Between her explosions and this miserable winter and all of the mundane details of life that require my ongoing attention, well, I’m worn a little thin. I suspect we all are.

As a result, my responses to my daughter’s meltdowns have been inconsistent, to say the least. Sometimes I’m funny and sweet with...
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Children

What I Learned From My Daughter’s Drawings

My daughter drawing a robot for her Daddy.

A unicorn standing in a field of butterflies.

A fairy jumping off a dock into a mountain lake.

Two boys and two girls and a monkey playing football.

If you asked me to draw any of these scenes, my reaction would be something along the lines of, “Of course not. I’m terrible at drawing!”

But if you ask my six-year-old daughter to...
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General

How My Daughters Are Helping Me Keep My Resolutions

Our resolutions charts for the first week of 2015.

In my last post, I offered some ideas for how to set effective New Years Resolutions. Although there are many folks out there who question the value of setting resolutions at all, I couldn’t help myself. I love the idea of a fresh start and a new opportunity to do a little bit better for myself and my family.

I...
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