It’s a wonderful thing to be accommodating, generous, and want to make other people happy. But sometimes the need to please and approval seeking behaviors get in the way of your own wellbeing.
There’s a price to be paid for being “too nice.” You spend so much time taking care of others that you run yourself ragged, neglect your own wants and needs, and lose your sense of self. Fear of rejection forces you to meet everyone else’s expectations. But what about you? What are you missing out on when you’re stuck being “Mr. Nice Guy”.
Some of the most successful people know that in order to lead a creative, authentic, and happy life, you have to ditch your people-pleasing ways and be yourself – no matter what others think.
“I can’t tell you the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.” – Ed Sheeran
“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
“When you say “yes” to others, make sure you aren’t saying “no” to yourself.” – Paulo Coehlo
“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” – Lao Tzu
“If you try to please all, you please none.” – Aesop
“There is only one way to avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.” – Aristotle
“If you’re trying to please everyone, then you’re not going to make anything that is honestly yours, I don’t think, in the long run.” – Viggo Mortensen
“If you are busy pleasing everyone, you are not being true to yourself” – Jocelyn Murray
“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” – Lao Tzu
“If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection.” – Lecrae
“When you stop living your life based on what others think of you real life begins. At that moment, you will finally see the door of self-acceptance opened.” – Shannon L. Alder
“Your need for acceptance can make you invisible in this world. Don’t let anything stand in the way of the light that shines through this form. Risk being seen in all of your glory.” – Jim Carrey
“The only thing wrong with trying to please everyone is that there’s always at least one person who will remain unhappy. You.” – Elizabeth Parker
“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams, or your dignity.” – Dinkar Kalotra
I hope you’re inspired to try to be more YOU and worry less about what others think.
I wish you well on your journey towards self-acceptance,
©2017 Sharon Martin, LCSW. All rights reserved.
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