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codependency

11 Relationship Red Flags and Why We Ignore Them


When a relationship ends or isn’t going well, it’s natural to reflect and wonder whether there were signs -- or red flags -- that your partner wasn’t a good match. You might find yourself thinking:
Did I miss something?
Were there signs that this relationship wasn’t going to work out?
Why do I keep dating the wrong people?
I had a gut feeling...


Boundaries

How to Protect Yourself from Family Drama During the Holidays


What’s the most stressful part of the holidays? Chances are it’s not the crowds, long to-do lists, or even the financial strain. My clients, friends, and colleagues resoundingly say that dealing with difficult family members and their over-the-top drama is the most stressful part of the holidays.
Who creates unwanted drama in your life?
For most of us, the holiday season means lots...


Highly Sensitive Person

Book Review: The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People


We live in a world with high levels of sensory input – loud movies, bright lights, crowds of people, the 24-hour news cycle, social media and technology that constantly interrupt and demand our attention. If you’re a highly sensitive or empathic person, this can be overwhelming and overstimulating, and leave you exhausted and lonely. According to Dr. Judith Orloff, “…empaths are emotional sponges who absorb both the...


mindfulness

11 Fall Self-Care Activities for October and November


Fall is here and with it comes busier schedules, colder weather, and shorter days. In the blink of an eye, the holidays will be here, and we’ll be wrapping up another year. Autumn is a natural time for reflection and gratitude, and it provides some special opportunities to use seasonal self-care ideas like the ones below.
Why do you need self-care?
Stress is a natural part of life for all...


codependency

The Difference between Dependency and Codependency


It’s normal and healthy to depend on others. Codependency, however, is very different than the type of dependency found in well-functioning relationships.
What is interdependency?
Humans are social beings and we’ve always lived in communities and relied on each other for our survival. So, there’s nothing wrong with needing others, relying on others, and asking for help. Healthy dependency, otherwise known as interdependency, involves a mutual give and take; both...


Boundaries

A People-Pleaser’s Guide to Compromise

Compromise, of course, is an important part of caring relationships. But people-pleasers are quick to abandon what they want or need in order to make others happy. We tend to sacrifice and compromise, sometimes without realizing we're giving up what's important to us. In fact,...


Anxiety

How to Stop Being So Controlling and Accept Uncertainty

Most people appreciate the advantages of an efficient routine and having things go according to plan. But some people get highly stressed, upset, or angry when life takes an unexpected turn – whether it’s an accident on your way to work or something as minor as your kids leaving a big mess in the kitchen.

Yes, some of us are “control freaks” who...