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4 Strategies to Cope with the Pain of Rejection

Rejection hurts.

We’ve all experienced the pain of rejection – perhaps a job you didn’t get, being ghosted by a friend, or not being invited to a social event -- and then seeing your friends post about it on social media.
What is rejection?
We feel rejected when we’re not included, accepted, or approved of. Rejection involves the loss of something we had or wanted. And rejection, like abandonment, leaves...


7 Ways to Avoid Codependency in Your Relationships

Do you repeatedly get into relationships with people who are troubled or who aren’t emotionally available? Do you tend to do more than your share of giving and compromising in your relationships? These can be signs of codependency and they usually lead to unfulfilling relationships that leave you hurt and angry.
What is codependency?
Codependency is a broad term and it can manifest in a variety of ways. Below...


How to Change Your All-Or-Nothing Thinking


Are you an all-or-nothing thinker? Perhaps you see yourself as a success or a failure, attractive or disgusting, smart or stupid. And you see others as with you or against you, right or wrong, thoughtful or selfish.

Seeing things as absolutes, black or white with no shades of gray in between, can leave you feeling stuck – unmotivated, unable to start new projects, pursue your goals, or...


How to Set Boundaries with Kindness

Our boundaries should reflect compassion for ourselves and others.

What are boundaries?
Boundaries create physical and emotional space between you and others. They show people how you want to be treated – what’s okay with you and what’s not.

Boundaries are essential in all relationships – with your parents, children, friends, boss, and so on. For example, you need to set a boundary with a coworker who...


6 Signs of Perfectionism That Aren’t About Trying to Be Perfect

Are you a perfectionist?
When we think of perfectionists, we tend to think of people like Jo, Darren, and Pamela.

Jo keeps an immaculate home. It looks more like a picture out of Better Homes & Gardens than home to three young kids and a dog!  Jo spends every spare moment, cleaning, organizing, and decorating. She even folds their underwear KonMari style.

Darren spends inordinate amounts of time writing and rewriting emails and text messages....


15 Signs You’re Too Nice for Your Own Good (And What You Can Do About It)

Considering other people’s feelings and treating them with kindness and generosity is something we should all strive to do. But sacrificing our own wellbeing in order to make others happy is not.

Sometimes there’s a fine line between doing things for others and behaving like their doormat.

When you compromise who you are and what you need, people-pleasing has crossed the line from kind and generous...


Why We Abandon Ourselves and How to Stop

Do you have a hard time trusting yourself? Do you hide parts of yourself – your feelings, beliefs, and ideas – in order to fit in or please others? Do you diminish or discount your feelings because you think they don’t really matter?

This is self-abandonment.

We abandon ourselves when we don’t value ourselves, when we don’t act in our own best interest,...

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6 Things I’m Not Doing This Holiday Season


As Christmas and the New Year approach, it’s easy to get caught up in the frenzy -- the sense that you must do more, spend more, be more. All of this pressure and unrealistic expectations can make it hard to enjoy the holidays fully. It keeps us busy and distracted from what matters most.