Assertiveness

14 Quotes to Inspire You to Ditch Your People-Pleasing Ways

Is your need to please getting in the way of your happiness? Is it consuming your energy and leaving you depleted?

It’s a wonderful thing to be accommodating, generous, and want to make other people happy. But sometimes the need to please and approval seeking behaviors get in the way of your own wellbeing.

There’s a price to be paid for being “too nice.” You spend so much...
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Overcoming Perfectionism

How Perfectionists Can Give Up Self-Criticism

So many of us feel intense pressures to achieve more, do more, and be more.

We live in a technology-driven society that never stops. We’re constantly bombarded with “my life is perfect” messages on social media. It’s no wonder that so many of us feel like we’re not measuring up.

But what is it that we’re not measuring up to? Perhaps we need to take another look at how we measure our worth. Perhaps...
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codependency

What Is an Anxious Attachment Style and How Can I Change It?


In my last post, What’s my Attachment Style and Why Does it Matter?, I gave you an overview of the three primary attachment styles (secure, anxious, and avoidant) and how attachment styles become the blueprint for our adult romantic relationships.

Securely attached people tend to have happier, longer lasting relationships built on trust. They feel comfortable expressing their feelings and needs. They can also...
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codependency

4 Signs You’re Dating a Narcissist

Thank you to Kimberly Sandstrom, LMFT for the following article. In it she shares her important insights on identifying narcissism and understanding the damage it can cause in relationships.


4 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist
Guest Post by Kimberly Sandstrom, LMFT


Do you feel unimportant, like an accessory, and alone in your relationship? Does your partner exhibit the characteristics of narcissism listed below?

While everyone has some narcissistic traits, only a
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codependency

What’s My Attachment Style and Why Does It Matter?



If you’re in an unhappy relationship, feel stuck in a pattern of failed relationships, or can’t seem to find Mr. (or Ms.) Right, your attachment style may be the reason.

We all learn about human relationships from our first relationships – those with our parents or primary caregivers. Understanding your attachment style can help you get to the root of your relationship troubles.

Ideally, parents provide security and safety...
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relationships

8 Expert Tips to Get Over Your Ex


A breakup or divorce is a loss that can shake up your entire life. You might feel confused, angry, or broken-hearted. It’s completely normal to feel all of these things. The end of a romantic relationship is painful. No matter the particulars, it’s a loss that needs to be grieved.

It’s natural to want to “get over" your ex and start feeling better as soon as possible. Unfortunately, sometimes...
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