3 Serious Mistakes You Probably Make With Your Emotions
Emotions are to therapists as numbers are to an accountant, a hammer is to a builder, or an engine is to an auto mechanic.
We simply cannot do our jobs without them.
Since I’ve been treating individuals and couples...
We simply cannot do our jobs without them.
Since I’ve been treating individuals and couples...
If You Really Knew Me
On “Back to School Night” at our high school, all of the students’ parents have the opportunity to walk through their child’s school day in their children’s shoes. The parents shuffle from one classroom to another, recreating their child’s full day’s schedule...
How to Spot Childhood Emotional Neglect in a Loved One
Legions of wonderful people are walking around the planet with no idea that they grew up emotionally neglected.
They give, they care for others, and they try to feel that they belong. Or, sometimes, they simply try to feel anything.
But alas, too often, they come up empty.
They are our neighbors, our friends, our brothers and sisters, our husbands or wives. They are quietly suffering with an invisible ghost...
They give, they care for others, and they try to feel that they belong. Or, sometimes, they simply try to feel anything.
But alas, too often, they come up empty.
They are our neighbors, our friends, our brothers and sisters, our husbands or wives. They are quietly suffering with an invisible ghost...
Recharge Your Life By Putting Yourself First (Finally)
What didn’t happen in your childhood and what you don’t remember has as much power over who you’ve become as an adult as the things that did happen and that you do remember.
It’s an invisible factor called Emotional Neglect, and it can disrupt your...
It’s an invisible factor called Emotional Neglect, and it can disrupt your...
The 10 Lessons of Childhood Emotional Neglect
Growing up in an emotionally neglectful household (Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN) takes its toll on you.
When, as a child, no one notices enough what you are feeling or what you need, you receive covert messages that are never...
When, as a child, no one notices enough what you are feeling or what you need, you receive covert messages that are never...
Are You Running From Yourself?
Recently a friend told me that he rarely reads or watches TV because he can't sit still that long. I have several clients who take on way more than they can handle in their lives because they like to "stay busy." A surprising number...
Use Self-Monitoring to Change Your Life
Would you like to:
Stop losing your temper with your children?
Get yourself to the gym more often?
Eat less sugar?
Use fewer swear words?
Play with your kids...
Stop losing your temper with your children?
Get yourself to the gym more often?
Eat less sugar?
Use fewer swear words?
Play with your kids...
Why Do You Ruminate? And 3 Steps to Stop It
Rumination is a cry for help from your brain.
Cynthia
Cynthia left the party with a group of laughing people. But she nevertheless braced herself for what she knew was to come.
Sure enough, soon after she crossed the threshold...
Cynthia
Cynthia left the party with a group of laughing people. But she nevertheless braced herself for what she knew was to come.
Sure enough, soon after she crossed the threshold...
Feel Overlooked Sometimes? This May Be The Reason
Who doesn’t look back at their high school years and cringe? I know I do. In fact, I have dreams about being back there. In those dreams I am not unprepared for a test, or breaking up with a boyfriend. I’m not...
Got Kids? 6 Ways to Make Them Emotionally Resilient
Noticing and responding to your child’s feelings is the deepest, most personal way that you can say, “I love you.”
As parents we want, more than anything, to do right by our children. We know...
