control

The good, Good, GOOD Narcissist

Sometimes, adult children of narcissists need validation. No. Make that all the time.I've written about being raised like a Project, not a Person. I've written about feeling like Exhibit A for the Defense to prove what a Good Parent my parent was. I've written about being raised "by the book" (Dr. Dobson, that is), instead...


Hope

Today I Love The Music Of Good Friends

As dry as it is, I love all the greenToday I love the music of good friends in my CD player. I love when that happens, love that I feel each new success that friends have as a part of my life. I love that sometimes it takes me a while to...


Check-In

It's back. That dark monster that latches to my back puling me down, down, down. It seems like a few days ago I was "normal." I was coasting on a smooth lake....


Beliefs

The Brain is an Argument

One of my favorite chapters in Jonah Lehrer's book How We Decide is entitled The Brain is an Argument.What does Lehrer mean by the brain is an argument? He uses the analogy of the Monitor newspaper's decision to endorse the Clinton camp in an election. The decision was made by...


Mental Health

Throwing The Dice

"We may lose and we may win though, We will never be here again, So open up, I'm climbin' in"  Jackson Browne/ Glenn Fry "Which of you to gain me, tell, will risk...


ADHD

Minimal Brain Dysfunction

May Be, D'oh!That really doesn't sound so bad, does it? I mean, it's brain dysfunction, supposedly, but it's minimal.And it has the added bonus of being something everyone could claim.Every time someone forgets something or makes a mistake in calculations, they could say, "Well, obviously my brain wasn't functioning quite right or...


General

Do You Regularly Stay Silent to Avoid Conflict?

How many times have you stayed absolutely silent when someone hurt your feelings, when someone crossed the line?How many times have you ignored a behavior because you didn't want the discomfort of a disagreement?How many times have you tried to convince yourself that you weren't upset and you weren't angry?


General

Reboot Your Sex Life After a Baby

Most new parents are blindsided by the steep decline in both the frequency of sex and overall sexual satisfaction. They feel lost and don’t know how to balance their new roles as parents and partners. Often, they tend to take the lack of sex as a personal rejection from their partners. They also feel hopeless and...


Co-Dependency

Sorting out Relationships with the Parts Model

One way to sort out relationships is by looking within to discover various "parts" of yourself.It's common to have different feelings and perspectives - even conflicting ones - toward others. One part of you may feel satisfied with a relationship, while another part of you isn't happy at all. Depending on which part...


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