Single Women over 50 – What’s it Like to Date

I am going to share one woman's experience with dating in her 50's:"I have come to realize that all men in their 50's are crazy!" jokes Mary, a recently divorced woman in her 50's."When I first started dating at age 56 after the ending of my long term marriage, I was scared to death because I...


Allism Spectrum Disorders: A Parody

In prevailing literature, people on the autism spectrum have all of their traits, their behaviors, and even their very existence pathologized. They are considered to have “mind blindness,” or the opposite of...


How Anxiety Dampens Sexual Pleasure

Occasional anxiety is a normal part of life and even expected or beneficial at certain times.It’s normal, for example, to feel anxious before a big test or a job interview, and some level of anxiety is needed to ensure that you are well-prepared.


How To Start Self-Care Today

Let’s face it, we are all busy. There’s work, family, work again, school for some of us, and let’s not forget those never-ending to-do lists. Each day our time is twisted, turned about, and distributed among the important things in life.


Emotional Leakage

John and I sat in my office making an agenda for the day’s Radically Open Dialectical Behavior Therapy (RO DBT) session. He looked nervous and fidgeted with his pen.I said, “Hey, what’s up?”“I cried in PUBLIC! … at med school,” he said distressingly. “I was sitting in my genetics class and we were talking about some genetic defects that kids develop, and I just...

Mental Health

Moving On Up

"Well we're movin on up,  To the east side.  To a deluxe apartment in the sky.  Movin on up, To the east side. We finally got a piece of the pie."  Janet Dubois / Jeff BarryIf all of your dreams came true tomorrow where would you be? 


The Power in What We Don’t Do

How we care for ourselves is both about what we do and what we don't do.I was reminded of this while listening to Sarah K. Peck's excellent podcast, StartUp Pregnant: She often asks her guests to share the tasks they don't do.


Today I Love These Last Few Summer Hours

Cool and brightToday I love these last few Summer hours and their lovely program called "Homage To Autumn" complete with chilling temperatures and sparkling love that tomorrow is the first full day of Autumn. I love that we registered for curling last night. I love that the market...


Why Small Talk Causes Anxiety

One of my specialties in my practice is working with people who struggle with various forms of anxiety, including social anxiety. And it's a consensus that small talk is a thorn in...


The Power of a Ritual

About a decade ago, Beth Ricanati's friend suggested she make challah for the Jewish New Year.The only thing Ricanati baked back then were boxed  brownies. To her, a physician and mom of three kids, the idea of making anything from scratch seemed overwhelming and downright impossible.


14 Ways To Practice Empathy

How do you feel when you watch a news segment about yet another school shooting or the devastation left by Hurricane Florence?Does your heart ache for the victims? Can you imagine how these people might be feeling and what they might be going through?If so, you're feeling empathy, defined as the ability to sense what someone...


The Anxious Therapist and How I Overcame It

In keeping with the new direction of my blog I'm going to focus more on the self-discovery process. It occurred to me the other day that I was laughing with the client because I completely and utterly understood where she was coming from. Not just the effort of being caring in the therapy setting, but the...

Bipolar Disorder

Dealing With Mood Changes

Rises and dips in mood have been a part of my life like a swinging pendulum, always there in the background threatening to swing forward and take over. It’s something that I’ve...

Mental Health

The Hard Questions

"I hurt myself today, To see if I still feel, I focus on the pain, The only thing that's real" Trent ReznorAre things going well in your life? Are you happy? Do you feel optimistic about the future? Are you prepared to die? 

Your FICO Score & Sex

"Money is sexy. Money is a topic that they should want to talk with you about, and the truth is, they should want to know as much about you as you about...


The Difference between Dependency and Codependency

It’s normal and healthy to depend on others. Codependency, however, is very different than the type of dependency found in well-functioning relationships. What is interdependency? Humans are social beings and we’ve always lived in communities and relied on each other for our survival. So, there’s nothing wrong with needing others,...

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