Coping Strategies

How to Survive your First Break Up – 5 Tips for Sanity

(Untangled) As is becoming more common knowledge, teen and young adult brains are not fully formed until much later than previously thought (age 12 or so).  So the dysregulated, or more likely unregulated amygdala (emotional life) and pre-frontal cortex (planning ability [take note, boys]) combine in their immaturity to form the perfect storm of intensity...
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Family of Choice

Linda: I grew up in the South and my only living grandparents lived in New York City. Except for occasional visits up North, I rarely saw them. I remember having a deep...
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The Feeling that You Are “Not Enough”

Mike believed he had a good life and felt lucky for all the things he had. He was married to a loving wife, had a good job, owned a nice house, and had 3 healthy kids. Despite all his good fortune, Mike could not shake the nagging feeling that he
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Yeah Right — Getting My Teen to Read Would Be a Miracle

It is not unusual to see a teenager with their phone in their hand and their eyes glued to its screen. You may even harbor some concerns that your teen is internet-addicted with the amount of time they spend on their phone. But at least they’re reading something, right? Well,
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ADHD

Take The Day Off

My day off ... So it's Wednesday, and the week is only half over. And it's true that I work at so many different jobs that it's impossible for me to take an entire day off. And worse still, I work seven days a week, though it's true that I only do a...
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Hope

Today I Love The Regulars

Office Equipment Today I love the regulars at every café and doughnut shop and local pub. I love Wednesdays in the café I use as my Wednesday office. I love that it has become a part of my weekly routine. I love that I miss it when we spend a week away, but...
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10 Signs of Psychopathy and Sociopathy

What comes to mind when you hear the terms psy-cho-pathy or soci-o-pathy? Do you think murderer, lying, or manipulation? If so, you are correct. Psychoathy and sociopathy are different terms to describe a set of different characteristics and motivators of the individual displaying symptoms. Thankfully, most of society does not meet criteria for these...
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Emotions

Combating The Cynic Within You

Do you sometimes jump to the conclusion that someone who smiles at you or asks how you’re doing is being fake – or has an ulterior motive? Perhaps you tend to criticize others (or yourself) more frequently than you used to. Or maybe you’ve been pulling back from getting together with friends, believing that they don’t...
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When Does Ingratiating Yourself Work?

Psychologists call it ingratiation. Most people call it trying to make people like you or, in certain contexts, brown-nosing. When it works, you increase the supply of good will people have for you. When it doesn’t, you just end up looking like a phony. So when does it work? To
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Riding a Bicycle Can Make You a Better Driver

Want to be a good driver? Spend a lot of time driving. Want to be an even better driver? Spend a lot of time cycling, too. At least, that’s what a new study from researchers in Australia suggests. The study involved 42 people between the ages of 30 and 50,
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Bipolar Laid Bare

Fatigue and Managing Emotions

I’m tired. Not “I didn’t get enough sleep last night” tired. I’m fatigued to the point of not being able to function. I’ve been incredibly busy and unable to keep to my normal routine. I’ve had long periods when I haven't been able to have the downtime I need in order to keep myself...
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Hope

Today I Love Sunny Summer Tuesdays

Sunny summer days Today I love sunny summer Tuesdays that feel like they could be Saturdays or Sundays. I love holidaying. I love road trips that work out well and fit the plans that were made. I love breakfast where everyone gets what they want. I love that even though we...
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Anxiety

I’d Rather Have a Heart Attack Than Meditate

The last Quick Fix column was about how to respond when someone says, "That's just the way I am." Well, maybe I don't want a full blown heart attack, the kind that hurts, but I could (do) put up with heart palpitations. At least I'd know I'm alive. Today's cartoon is about my astonishment that some people can actually meditate, and seem to enjoy it. When I was...
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ADHD Symptoms

The Diet for Depression

While there has been some research in the past suggesting a link between diet and depression, Professor Felice Jacka of Deakin University in Australia has completed a truly revolutionary study demonstrating that a healthy diet can actually treat existing depression. The study involved 67 individuals with moderate to severe depression, most of whom were taking...
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