Anxiety

Doesn’t Matter Your Political Party – All Are Stressing Us Out

How do we manage this stress? We should look to our strengths. The future of America is a significant source of stress for most citizens, a new study by the American Psychological Association finds. The survey reviewed the most common stress-management tools that Americans are currently using. I highlight these tools and weave in suggestions for using your character strengths to help you make the most of...
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General

The Laws of Attraction: Rehab Edition

Attractions will come and go, but for my sobriety’s sake, there need to be some ground rules when it comes to rehab romance. 1. Ring the Bell and Get Honest about Who You’re Attracted to at a Group Level. “Hola Papi.” That’s all I heard as he seductively
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General

Can You Have Too Much Self-Esteem?

The time, place and culture we grow up in affects everything we experience going forward. For those who came of age when obedience ranked supreme – when “what do you know, you’re just a kid” was a given, when harsh external censors (that subsequently became our own internal censors)
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Relationships

White Hair? On Me?

There it is, folks. My very own distinguished white streak at last. Yesterday I made an amazing discovery. The night just prior I had noticed a grey hair or two making an appearance along my hair's main part line. Don't misunderstand - this was nothing new. It was what I discovered next that left my jaw hanging wide...
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Co-Dependency

Five Reasons to Fire your Therapist

I'm a huge advocate of counseling. During my life, I've made use of some very good counselors for personal reasons. As a counselor, I worked with clients over a 10-year period. As a friend or family member, I've helped people find good therapists on several occasions. I've also seen some shocking violations of ethics and common...
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General

5 Life Skills Predict Health and Happiness Later in Life

If you could choose to master any life skill, optimism wouldn’t be a bad place to start. That and four other life skills have been linked to health, happiness and even financial wealth later in life. Psychologists have known for a while that certain traits like optimism tend to be
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General

Regret Over Missed Opportunities May Drive Risk Taking

Often it’s the things we didn’t do that we regret the most – not the things we did do but shouldn’t have. And when we take risks in life, often it’s because we realize that sometimes it’s worse to not do something and then regret what we missed out on
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ADHD Symptoms

Three Simple Steps to Understanding your Emotions

Driven by emotions, we react to others, make important decisions, avoid uncomfortable situations, and even sabotage our goals. Yet, most of us don't really understand our emotions or exercise much control over them. This simple tutorial will help us take concrete steps to understanding our emotions so that we can make more conscious choices with...
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Hope

Today I Love The Backyard’s Rich New Look

Ahhh, renewing the gardens. Today I love the backyard's rich new look, with fresh compost and new topsoil in many of the raised beds and some of the spreading plants restricted and corralled. I love all the blooming flowers, and the plans for veggies and herbs that will fill the beds....
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ADHD

Squirrels, Ducks, Water, and Stones

Stone Skipping Capital of Canada I have ADHD. And we, the people with ADHD, have long been associated with the squirrel motif. The reasons are many. Squirrels, for one thing, are resourceful. Squirrels also, because we really don't understand them well, seem to be easily distracted.
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