Home » Blogs » Your Body, Your Mind » “All You Had to Do Was Ask”

“All You Had to Do Was Ask”

Helga Weber | CC
Helga Weber | CC

As many of you know, I joined a gym earlier this year, and one of the perks I listed for joining my particular gym was the manager’s promise to personally assist me whenever I asked.

Well, because my beau is a bit of a workout junkie and set up a few fairly awesome routines for me, I never had any questions.

Until a few weeks ago.

A few weeks ago, I decided a certain body part needed extra attention. The exercises I was doing just weren’t focusing on that area. I was neglecting it, and didn’t know how to remedy that.

But…did I ask the gym manager (who happens to be a physical therapist and therefore highly educated on how body parts work) for help?

No. No I did not.


Well, frankly I was embarrassed. I mean, OK, let me just be honest: We’re talking about my butt. I was embarrassed to ask this mere acquaintance for butt exercises.

So, I went on neglecting my butt, until one day he overheard me talking (rather, complaining) to my sister about my butt exercise ignorance. He approached me and showed me not one, not two, but three different exercises for glutes.

“Wow, thank you!” I said. “These are exactly what I needed!”

“All you had to do was ask,” he replied, walking off.

He was right. All I had to do was ask. I needed help in an area I was neglecting, I had someone in my circle I could ask, and I didn’t.

I won’t make that mistake again.

The whole situation made me stop and think even further, though. How many times in life do we have areas we’re neglecting because we don’t really know how to address them? How long do we continue to neglect those areas, simply because we’re too embarrassed to ask for help?

So, my question to you, sweet readers, is this: What are YOU neglecting in your life, simply because you aren’t sure how to approach it? What questions could YOU ask someone with more experience? Do YOU feel comfortable asking them, and if not, what WOULD make you feel more comfortable?

“All You Had to Do Was Ask”

Alicia Sparks

Alicia Sparks is a freelance writer and editor and the creator of, where she blogs to help new freelance writers get their quills in the pot, so to speak. Among animal rights, music, and physical wellness, her passions include mental health and advocacy. Here at Psych Central she works as Syndication Editor as well as authors Your Body, Your Mind, Unleash Your Creativity, and World of Psychology's weekly "Psychology Around the Net."

No comments yet... View Comments / Leave a Comment



APA Reference
Sparks, A. (2015). “All You Had to Do Was Ask”. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 16, 2019, from


Last updated: 3 Aug 2015
Statement of review: Psych Central does not review the content that appears in our blog network ( prior to publication. All opinions expressed herein are exclusively those of the author alone, and do not reflect the views of the editorial staff or management of Psych Central. Published on All rights reserved.