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anxiety

Top 5 Unhealthy Ways of Thinking (and What to Do Instead)


When people struggle with anxiety or a high state of emotion, there are common unhealthy patterns of thinking that are destructive.

Black-and-white thinking. This is also called all-or-nothing thinking. For example, Alex gets into a fight with his mother-in-law and fumes, "she never listens to a word I'm saying!" There have been plenty of times that his mother-in-law has listened to him but in the moment he is unable to see that. His emotions are flooding...
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Family

Today, I am Good Enough

Today I am tired.

It's hot outside, I have things I know I need to do: laundry, yard work, housework, walking and bathing my dog Max, catching up on paperwork, working on continuing education and many other things.

All I want to do is sit on the couch in my air-conditioned house and binge on Netflix.

There's no real reason for me to feel this way. I'm caught up on sleep. I have a cold, but it's not...
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Depression

10 Things to Know When Someone You Love is Depressed.

Written by Jennifer Hargreave and Jenise Harmon, LISW-S

Here are a few things I've learned about supporting a loved one with mental health issues:

Anyone can suffer from depression. A person with depression could be your neighbor, your best friend, your child's teacher, your pastor, your partner. It can be you. Depression doesn't play favorites.
Someone who has depression may not appear to have it. It doesn't matter how positive, optimistic, "together" they are. They can still...
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anxiety

10 Steps to Overcoming Frustration

Frustration. It happens to everyone at one time or another. It can make you angry, feel anxious, and be very overwhelming.

When you're frustrated, it can feel like nothing is under your control and everything is chaos. It's hard to know where to begin. When you're flooded with emotion, it's difficult to think straight.

How do you calm down and begin to tame those feelings when they come up? Where do you begin?

Here are ten steps to help you...
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Family

7 Tips to Make your Holidays (Mostly) Peaceful

Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, or other winter holiday, there's probably a thing or two that you're dreading. Despite all the songs about peace and harmony, love and joy, family and friends, holidays can be rough on relationships.

Sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Be it your temperamental aunt on your father's side, your sister-in-law who always has a bit too much to drink, or even your children who have not yet learned to accept a present they...
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anxiety

Healing From Trauma and Mental Illness

In June of this year, I dislocated my pinky. It was x-rayed to make sure it wasn’t broken. Because it was "just" a dislocation, I thought that in a couple of weeks it would be healed and back to normal. I had no idea that healing could take much longer than that.
It’s been five months, and my finger is still crooked and swollen. It still has a limited range of motion....
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Family

10 Communication Skills You Can Use Right Now

When my daughter was 2 ½, she was a biter. And by biter I don’t mean that she bit into bagels or apples.

She bit kids. Small kids, bigger kids. I watched her like a hawk but she continued. I had no idea why until she started attending speech therapy when she was three. Almost immediately, she was able to ask for what she wanted, and found that people responded. The biting ended.

Because of speech therapy,...
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Depression

Feeling S.A.D? How to Battle Seasonal Affective Disorder.


Autumn and winter are beautiful seasons. The  leaves changing colors, the air grows sharp and crisp, snow and frost and ice appear. It sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Except, for some people, it's not great. The reduction in daylight hours can bring on seasonal depression. For people who struggle with SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder), autumn and winter harken days of depressed moods, weight gain or loss, periods of withdrawing from the world, and increased sleep.

People who struggle...
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