Archives for Psychotherapy

Anger

The Black Dog of Depression



The other night I was awakened by the sound of a furious barking dog outside my house.

After 30 minutes of constant barking, I stepped outside and saw the neighbor’s black dog running around as if in a panic, trying to get into his home. No one came to the door.

Eventually the police were called, and they tried in vain to catch the skittish dog. The dog would approach the officers, and then...
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Depression

A Client’s Bill of Rights — Our Top 10

When people come in for therapy, they're not at their best. No one comes for counseling when everything is fine. People come because their lives have gotten out of control, when they're hurting, confused, anxious, depressed, or scared.

In the midst of finding a therapist, scheduling a first appointment, and meeting this person who you entrust with the deepest part of yourself, you may not think about your rights as a client or patient.

As a therapist,...
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General

Tracking Your Mood? There’s an App for That!



As a therapist, I know how important understanding your moods are is. I will often ask the people I work with how their mood has been.

Usually people will give a one or two word answer that mainly represents how they’re feeling now rather than thinking through their whole week. Sometimes someone will say that the beginning of the week was rough, but they feel better now. What I'm really curious to know is how their...
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Depression

6 Things You Probably Don’t Know About Bipolar Disorder


According to NAMI (the National Alliance on Mental Illness) more than 10 million people have bipolar disorder .

How much do you know about it?

If you’re like most people, you probably assume that you have a basic idea of what the disease is about. You've seen or read about celebrities who have acknowledged their illness.

Some of  you may know that Demi Lovato learned in 2010 that she is bipolar. Ms. Lovato also has struggled with an...
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Mental Health

10 Tips for Finding a Great Therapist

Making the choice to begin counseling can be difficult; finding a therapist that you connect with and can help you is challenging.
Google will gladly overwhelm you with thousands of counselors or therapists in less than a second.
Therapy sites such as or Psychology Today offer search tools for specific cities and states.
As a therapist, I've had people find me through my blog, a friend, newspaper articles or a TV appearance, and...
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General

3 Steps to Battle Self-Hatred


Dear Reader,

If I were to sneak inside your head, just for a moment, what would I hear?

At your darkest moment, when you’re all alone with your thoughts and your thoughts are the things of chaos, when you can’t sleep, and you are at your lowest, what words would slip into being?

Is your head full of hate to yourself? Do you chastise and berate your actions of the day? Do you hear anger? Chastisement? Disgust?

If I could magically give...
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Family

When Your Teen is Being Bullied: 5 Things Parents Need to Know

No parent wants to find out that their child is being bullied. Yet this is a situation in which many parents find themselves, and it can be incredibly scary and confusing.

Teens are bullied over the same thing generation after generation: physical differences such as weight, acne and facial features, speech differences, mental abilities/disabilities.

Teens get bullied verbally, physically (tripping down the hall, book bumping), and through writing.

One significant difference that teens face now is the vast...
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Family

Making the Most of Marriage/Relationship Counseling

People seek marriage or relationship therapy for many reasons.

For some people, it's because of a crisis, such as infidelity, job loss, illness or accidents.

Others come in because they feel distant and want to grow closer, or they seek counseling before they marry to sort out any difficulties and ensure that they're ready for life together.

Some couples simply know that something feels wrong but they don't know what, and they want to fix it.

But once you...
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Abuse

The Newest Face of Trauma: Female Veterans


"Jessica" (pseudonym) was 18 years old when she enlisted in the Army. She was trained as a mechanic, and enjoyed what she did.

The Army provided her the family she didn't have at home and a sense of belonging and stability. At the time, the United States was not engaged in a war. A year later, this would change.

Jessica was sent to Afghanistan. While there, she was injured when the truck she was driving hit an...
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