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Talking with Your Child About Violence, Terrorism, and Disasters


Recently, I've had to explain events to my 10-year-old daughter that I struggled to comprehend myself: terrifying violence, natural disasters, and terrorism.

Only a few days ago in Las Vegas, a man killed more than 50 people and wounded 500-plus more. It wasn't in a war or a natural disaster. This was a man who did something horrendous and terrifying, something we don't have many answers for.

In September, I had conversations with my daughter about the volunteer...
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Today, I am Good Enough

Today I am tired.

It's hot outside, I have things I know I need to do: laundry, yard work, housework, walking and bathing my dog Max, catching up on paperwork, working on continuing education and many other things.

All I want to do is sit on the couch in my air-conditioned house and binge on Netflix.

There's no real reason for me to feel this way. I'm caught up on sleep. I have a cold, but it's not...
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7 Tips to Make your Holidays (Mostly) Peaceful

Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanza, or other winter holiday, there's probably a thing or two that you're dreading. Despite all the songs about peace and harmony, love and joy, family and friends, holidays can be rough on relationships.

Sounds lovely, doesn't it?

Be it your temperamental aunt on your father's side, your sister-in-law who always has a bit too much to drink, or even your children who have not yet learned to accept a present they...
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10 Life Lessons to Teach Your Child

Recently, I had an interaction with a friend that showed me some areas where we parent quite differently.

The conversation brought to light the fact that, although we parent differently, we both want to raise our kids in the best way possible and we both want to teach our children valuable life lessons.

So here are ten life lessons that I believe our children should learn. Please add your own in the comments below!

Friendships take work. Friendship is...
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10 Communication Skills You Can Use Right Now

When my daughter was 2 ½, she was a biter. And by biter I don’t mean that she bit into bagels or apples.

She bit kids. Small kids, bigger kids. I watched her like a hawk but she continued. I had no idea why until she started attending speech therapy when she was three. Almost immediately, she was able to ask for what she wanted, and found that people responded. The biting ended.

Because of speech therapy,...
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The Power of Kindness

"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. "Aesop
I was a new mom, trying to manage a crying infant and two grumpy stepsons at the library.
One of my arms held the baby; the other balanced a stack of children's books and two DVDs. We were all tired and frustrated and ready to get out of there, and the kids were eager to watch their movies.
The librarian scanned my...
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The Power of “NO”

My mother says that my first word was no.

I’m not surprised that this was the first true word that came out of my  mouth.

Many children sing out the joys of no regularly and with enthusiasm. "Would you like more potatoes?" "NO!" "Put on your shoes please." "NO!" "Time for a nap." "NO!"

And why not? Children learn very early on that when they say no, something big and important happens. It could be that the food they dislike is...
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Dear Daughter: 5 Life Lessons for My Child




As my daughter enters the middle of her eighth year, she is changing and growing rapidly.
She vacillates between the feelings and needs of a child, and the desires of independence of a young teen.
Eight years old is an age of rapid maturation for many children. She picks up on the nuances of relationships. She hears the news and is afraid sometimes. She is learning her own boundaries and setting limits, but still...
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Sadness or Depression? Recognizing Mental Illness in Tweens and Teens

Kids carry around a ton of emotion.
As infants, they communicate with cries, screams, and eventually smiles and laughter.
Toddlers grow and begin to use spoken language in addition to laughter, hugs, biting, hitting, and crying.
The childhood years are generally calm. A second grader has not yet entered the emotional turmoil of the teen or preteen years, and has increased social skills that they didn't have as a toddler...
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