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10 Steps to Overcoming Frustration

Frustration. It happens to everyone at one time or another. It can make you angry, feel anxious, and be very overwhelming.

When you're frustrated, it can feel like nothing is under your control and everything is chaos. It's hard to know where to begin. When you're flooded with emotion, it's difficult to think straight.

How do you calm down and begin to tame those feelings when they come up? Where do you begin?

Here are ten steps to help you...
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Transform Your Inner Critic

Your inner critic.

Everyone has one.

Most people want to shut up, destroy, annihilate, or otherwise quiet that voice in their head that says things like, that was a stupid thing to say, or you look so fat today, you're dumb, you'll never get anywhere in life. I'm sure you can add your own.

Your inner critic is the voice that monitors your every act, word, and thought.

When it's out of control, your inner critic can rule your...
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The Importance of Connection, Part 1: How to Get and Stay Connected

Everyone needs to feel connected.

When I first became a bird owner, I noticed that my cockatiel Sunshine would only eat when someone was near her.

Most birds are flock animals; they rely on the members of their community for companionship, safety, and parenting.

In the wild, Sunshine would only eat with her flock members there to watch out for her.

Like many other animals, humans have an inborn need for...
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Anger

5 Easy Ways to Overcome Negative Thinking

This past weekend, I found myself 400 miles and 3 states away from home with $16 of cash, a half tank of gas, but no credit cards.

I pulled into a gas station and asked if they would take a check. Nope.

How about a credit card number phoned in from my husband? Nope.

My random gift cards were worthless here. I was worried.

I was desperate. I went back to my car where my young daughter sat and...
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Career & Job

Excuse or Explanation: Is There a Difference?

"It wasn't my fault!"
"She made me do it!"
"Everyone else was doing it!"
"I'm sorry, "
"He started it!"

Do these sound familiar?

For some people, these phrases may bring back memories of their childhood, or they may have heard these statements from their kids.

Despite sounding childish, everyone has said something similar in their adult life to a spouse, police officer, family member, or friend.

In counseling sessions, I frequently hear how people struggle with the difference...
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Abuse

Sometimes it’s the Little Things that Hurt the Most

Have you ever had a moment when things are going relatively smoothly, then something small happens and your whole world is turned upside down?

Often we think that big problems come from big incidents: your spouse divorces you and you become depressed, your house burns down and you have nightmares for weeks, you fight in a war and have PTSD.

But trauma doesn't fit so neatly into a box.

Some people experience severe trauma with very few...
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Career & Job

The Importance of Perspective

Have you ever felt like the car you were in was rolling backwards, only to realize that your car was actually still, but the car next to you was moving forward?

You inadvertently judged your own movement based not on what was truly happening, but on what your mind thought was happening.

Sometimes what we see, experience, and believe is not completely valid or true. Like an optical illusion where what the eye sees isn't accurate,...
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5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

What would you say defines a difficult person? Is it someone who gossips? A supervisor who criticizes you in front of coworkers? A mother-in-law who disregards your request to not smoke in front of your toddler?

Difficult people are everywhere: at work, in social groups, volunteer organizations, the library, and playgrounds. They're our neighbors, relatives, coworkers and friends.

I'm pretty sure that each of us knows a person who we consider difficult, and I'm also fairly...
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Time – Make the Most of the Hours You Have

How many times have you complained that there are just not enough hours in the day to do what you need to, or wondered in frustration how the afternoon managed to slip by?

Each person has 24 hours in a day to spend. A certain amount of that is for the basics - sleeping, eating, bathing, dressing. But after those hours are spent, the rest of how you use the time is really up to...
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Simple Tips to Improve Communication Through Active Listening

One of the most common problems in relationships is communication. And while some people struggle with being able to talk about their problem, often the main issue is ineffective listening.

When you have a problem that you want to bring up with someone else, or if they bring up an issue to you, there are ways to make the conversation go smoothly.

Learning how to listen is a skill that can be used in every relationship,...
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