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7 Unique Ways to Say “I Love You” This Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is widely acknowledged as a day to celebrate love, but actually has quite tragic and macabre origins regarding ritual sacrifice and more. It is far too complicated to go into here, but for a very interesting read, head over to NPR’s article about it.

As it stands now,Valentine’s Day is a time for people to show their love to each other. Many people have complained that it has become too commercial; with school children passing out candy to all their classmates, partners giving cards, chocolate, and gifts.

But there are special, different ways to express your love and affection.

Here are some unique ways to express your love for your partner.

  • Hire a meal service for a month. This works well if your partner dislikes cooking and finds it to be a chore. Not having to think about what to cook or getting the ingredients can leave more time for the two of you to connect and enjoy one another. Meal services are varied, with some bringing the ingredients prepared and others have the ingredients but require more preparation. There are also services that provide complete meals with little to no preparing required.
  • Get your partner’s vehicle detailed, or even do it yourself! If you can do this as a complete surprise it’s even better. Car detailing is one of those things that many of us want to do but don’t get around to doing it for ourselves. We spend so much of our time in our vehicles that it’s a gift that will be well-appreciated. There are some shops that will come and detail your car where your car is, which would increase the surprise value.
  • Get a calendar and plan out a month’s worth of weekly dates. Take on the responsibility so that your partner doesn’t have to think about it. It can be a lunch at a new restaurant, a jazz concert in the park, a picnic, a morning of sleeping in and breakfast in bed. Take care of all the details such as getting a sitter, tickets, or reservations. Don’t tell your partner what the specific plans are though. Again, the surprise factor is important.
  • Hide messages of affection around where he or she will encounter them, such as in a sock drawer, a lunch bag, taped to a laptop, even mailed the previous day. Make the messages humorous, romantic, playful, or just special things that are meaningful for the two of you.
  • Write down all of the “honeydo” things that your partner has been asking you about, and do them. Fixing the squeaky door, calling the cable company, making a vet appointment, arranging for the carpets to be cleaned, or getting the dog groomed. I’m sure there are plenty of things to keep you busy and remind your loved one that you’re thinking of them.
  • Redo your first date. Go to the coffee shop, the movie theatre, the bar or restaurant where you first met. Spend the meal talking about why you fell in love and how your love has changed and grown.
  • Do an activity that your partner loves and you don’t. Go golfing, do a jigsaw puzzle, hike, watch a romantic comedy, play a video game, go out to eat at that place she loves and you don’t.

There are thousands of ways to say “I love you” without words and without the cliches. It is different for each couple. Find a few and make a point to do them, both this Valentine’s Day and throughout the year. Love thrives when it is repeatedly shown and experienced in a variety of ways.


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7 Unique Ways to Say “I Love You” This Valentine’s Day

Jenise Harmon, MSW, LISW-S

Jenise Harmon, LISW-S, is a psychotherapist with a private practice in Columbus, Ohio. She works with individuals and couples, and specializes in relationship counseling. She's now offering online counseling for residents of Ohio. Stay Connected . Follow her on twitter; and connect with her on Facebook.

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Harmon, J. (2018). 7 Unique Ways to Say “I Love You” This Valentine’s Day. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 1, 2020, from


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