Today, I am Good Enough
Today I am tired.
It’s hot outside, I have things I know I need to do: laundry, yard work, housework, walking and bathing my dog Max, catching up on paperwork, working on continuing education and many other things.
All I want to do is sit on the couch in my air-conditioned house and binge on Netflix.
There’s no real reason for me to feel this way. I’m caught up on sleep. I have a cold, but it’s not bad. I have a headache, but ibuprofen will take care of that.
So today will be a Good Enough day.
A Good Enough day allows me to be gentle on myself. It means that I can take things a bit slower, not complete everything I think I should.
For me, Good Enough will mean that I’ll take a shower, brush my teeth, make an easy breakfast, fold laundry and watch Netflix, but not drag down the hamper full of clothes.
It means that I’ll walk to the neighborhood coffee shop with my dog, drink an iced Americano, and catch up on blogging, but skip the paperwork until I head to the office this afternoon.
I’ll figure out which continuing education classes I want to take online, bookmark the pages, hopefully get excited about them and if I feel like it watch some of one, but I won’t force it.
Taking care of yourself means accepting the times when good enough is necessary.
No one can run at full speed all of the time and not burn out.
Good Enough days are times when you allow yourself to rest from some of the expectations of life. You might let your kids have more screentime than usual, and feel okay about it. Dinner may be takeout, and the snack for the PTA meeting may be from the store. This will not lead to a catastrophe. The dishes can wait and paper plates are just fine.
Good Enough is taking care of what needs to be taken care of, but not pushing myself to do more.
Sure, my famous homemade lemon bars would be lovely, but brownies from the store can be put on a nice plate and no one will be the wiser. Dust bunnies can wait for another day. My dog isn’t that dirty, and I did walk to the coffee shop which is a walk enough. For today.
Today no one will go hungry. Important phone calls will be made and returned. The time I save will mean more time with my family and more time to do that which gives me peace and joy.
It can be hard for us to allow ourselves to slow down and accept less than perfect. But it really is okay. More than okay, it is needed to be relaxed and healthy. Good enough isn’t an escape. It’s letting some of the air out of a tire so it doesn’t explode. It’s not totally deflating the tire so much that it is flat.
A Good Enough day means tomorrow will be better because I will be more rested and more relaxed. It will be an example to my child that things don’t need to be perfect, that taking care of myself not just important, it’s critical, and in the long run, it will pay off.
So today I will be kind to myself. I will breathe easier and deeper. I will smile more. I will feel more relaxed.
I’ll look forward to being more productive tomorrow, and simply enjoy today.
Harmon, J. (2017). Today, I am Good Enough. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 20, 2017, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/your-life/2017/05/good-enough/