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Unexpected Challengs of Parenting, Part 2: Young Children

When a parent gazes at a beautiful sleeping infant, the possibilities of how he or she will grow up are endless and wonderful.

No one imagines that their sweet fuzzy-haired infant will morph into a toddler who bites and terrorizes other children, or who refuses to eat anything other than chicken nuggets for days at a time.

Parents often imagine that if they just do everything right and provide the best toys and intellectual stimulation for...
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Unexpected Challenges of Parenting: Part One – New Parents

When someone becomes a parent, everything changes.

Men who used to pride themselves in their stoicism find themselves crying when they greet their new daughter. Women who would gag at the thought of vomit share advice on cleaning meconium  stains from cloth diapers.

Priorities shift. Love takes on a new meaning.

Life is wonderful, right? New life, new meaning, new stress, new challenges, new fights, new problems.

There are some things parenting books don't prepare you...
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5 Ways to Help Girls Love Their Bodies

Recently, while in the locker room at a pool, I saw a young girl finish weighing herself. As she walked away, I heard her congratulating herself: “YES! I lost weight! I lost weight!”

The girl (who was quite thin) couldn’t have been more than nine years old. She hadn’t even hit puberty yet.

As an eavesdropper on her private musings, I was saddened.

A nine year old who is constantly weighing herself is at war with her...
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Live Beyond Normal

Think back to the most inspiring people of your life; the ones who encouraged you think, and who helped you achieve incredible things. Think about the great people of history; who have made the world a better place to be, whose lives are recorded in books and monuments, who changed things. Would you describe them as “normal”?  Probably not.

The words you would use might be: extraordinary, brilliant, strong, unique, amazing.

There are some things in...
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Career & Job

Simple Tips to Improve Communication Through Active Listening

One of the most common problems in relationships is communication. And while some people struggle with being able to talk about their problem, often the main issue is ineffective listening.

When you have a problem that you want to bring up with someone else, or if they bring up an issue to you, there are ways to make the conversation go smoothly.

Learning how to listen is a skill that can be used in every relationship,...
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When Someone You Love is Abused

In an abusive relationship, there is often more than one victim. Family and friends of abuse victims often struggle with feelings of sadness, helplessness and even anger.

You may want to rescue the person you love. You may be furious at them for staying in an abusive relationship and not listening to you. You may feel frustrated. You may be confused and hurt.

It's hard to understand the power that an abuser has, and the strong...
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Career & Job

Are You Too Nice?

Being nice is a great quality to have. The world could definitely use more kindness and generosity.

But there are times when you can have too much of a good thing. There is such a thing as being too nice. People who are too nice end up agreeing to do things they really don't want to do. They sacrifice independence for a false sense of safety and belonging.

Here are three characteristics of people who take niceness...
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Career & Job

8 Things to Know About Grief


Grief is a natural, common occurrence to loss. Here are 8 things that are important to recognize about grief.

Everyone experiences it in different ways, and no way is better than the other. Some people are vocal and express their grief through cries or screams. Some people grieve quietly. Some people need outside comfort and seek to be around others, while other people need solitude and time to work out their sorrow alone.
When an abuser...
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