Dating & Relationships

Love Letters

There’s nothing like a good love letter… although in today’s case it’s more likely to be a love email.

I once saved nearly all the love letters/emails from past boyfriends/love interests/high school crushes. I had a fantasy of writing a book about the love letters compiled during my life.  It would be an interesting window into my relationships – a cool chronicle of how many relationships one woman can screw up.

However, in a cleaning hissy...
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My First Kiss Went A Little Like This …

There’s just something about first kisses. When, where, how and why they happen can tell you a lot about a person. They can also tell you a lot about what the relationship might be like. Usually imbued with all sorts of anxieties, they can send tingles up your spine, set your loins on fire, or totally turn you off.

I remember my first kiss …

I was fifteen – his name was Bruce. We both worked...
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That Horse Looks A Lot Bigger this Time Around

So you know that old expression, “when you fall off, get right back on that horse”?  Well, that’s what I’ve been trying to do for the past two months since Frank f*cked me over by standing me up for his ex-wife at his National Guard unit’s homecoming.

But this “single-time-around” has been a lot harder for me to get back in the dating scene.

I’m not sure if I’m unmotivated or if I have shut...
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There are Still Good Men in the World

So after all the crap that Frank put me through in the past month, you’d think I might have a bad opinion of men.  Well, I do, but for only the ones who have screwed me over!  There are still good men in this world, I see them every day.

Now judging “good men” and “good relationships” is an inexact science, as I can only see them from the outside.  I can only adjudicate...
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“Unf*ckin’ Believable” Mystery Solved

So now it’s been three weeks since that fateful night at the Armory when I went to pick up Frank and he disappeared into thin air.  After several emails to his sister, I finally heard from him.

Here was what he wrote – mind you this email came two weeks after I was supposed to pick him up.

[Note: he must have written this email on a phone, as it is filled with...
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File Under: “Unf*ckin’ Believable”

Sometimes, and often at the most inopportune moments, a fine line appears - the line between “life” and a “Lifetime Movie.”  I've been known to be overly dramatic now and then - heaven knows I've had my share of drama. In fact, I spent most of my childhood with my mother saying, "Oh, don't be so dramatic.”

However, this latest episode takes the cake!

The last few weeks I had been anxiously awaiting Frank’s return from Afghanistan....
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Reunion Anxiety

Reuniting is a strange phenomenon.  In my case it’s loaded with shaky expectations and lots of unknowns.

Frank is returning from Afghanistan in about four weeks.  The past 11 months flew by really fast, but now the last month is going to drag with anticipation.  He’s hit the part in his tour where they are transitioning their duties to the replacement unit, so he is feeling very superfluous.  This is the worst thing for...
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To Mentor or Not to Mentor …

The subject of mentoring has been on my mind a lot lately.  It’s been one of those things that when you hear about it once it sticks in your mind and then you keep noticing it everywhere.

It began in early December when I started a new job and my boss gave me a New Yorker article about a surgeon who was skeptical about the idea of having a mentor (he...
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A Highly Evolved Man?

What does it mean to be highly evolved?  In particular – a highly evolved man?   Last month Frank wrote to me, “I worked on my brief last night till 2 am.  Then read Cosmo for an hour. What smut that is. It gave me some tips on how to enjoy your masturbation, and encourage use of toys and household objects. I'm going to seek out more of these to become super educated on...
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