11 thoughts on “Considering Divorcing Your Mentally Ill Partner? Tips from an Expert

  • August 22, 2012 at 8:56 pm

    My wife is divorcing me due to my severe mental illness which became a breakdown. Now i am seeking ssd for my illness and wonder if i can get spousal support from her to help pay for my extensive treatment.

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    • August 25, 2012 at 12:26 am

      Very Sorry You are dealing with two difficult situations in your life at the same time. Hoping You get the needed help, support and attorney advice. Wishing You future Wellness and Peace!:)

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  • September 8, 2012 at 3:52 pm

    Typical tripe article that lends no usefull info in responce to the articles title. This chats up reasons for not divorcing a spouse for most any reason. Instead of helping the caregiver spouses who can no longer properly care for their mate. We need help with what to do next when the decision demands that they can no longer safely stay with you and you can’t afford the $5K a month the decent care homes demand.AMERICA’S HIDDEN SHAME “HOW IT HIDES AND CARES FOR ITS MENTALY ILL THAT ARN’T RICH OR FAMOUS” not!

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  • January 4, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    I’m here to let the whole world know how i got my husband back through the help of a spell caster called Dr. Ekpen Temple, it all started one morning when me and my husband have an argument and he angrily left and said to me that he is no longer coming back to me, at first i thought it was a normal joke, two weeks passed i did hear from him until it became 1 year i still did not hear from him it was then i started looking for how i can get him back (because i love him so much that i don’t want to loss him for someone else) is was then i heard about Dr. Ekpen Temple the spell caster on the internet on how he has help so many people in there are relationship so i contacted him, to cut the long story short my husband came back to me and we celebrate the Christmas and New year together. you can contact Dr. Ekpen Temple on: ((([email protected] com))) for help today.

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  • February 4, 2015 at 8:24 am

    My sister is divorcing someone with Deppression, BiPolar and more recently diagnosed with Narcisstic Tendencies Personality Disorder. In addition he is violent and has been inprisoned for stabbing an unarmed man, rape, drugs , and sectioned for beating up women etc! It’s been a headspin these past few months (since she asked for a divorce) as he is relentless in his attacks against her. He’s managed to lie to the courts and police and had her arrested (banged up overnight twice). The last time he actually burned himself (its a terrible burn), smashed glass to ‘set the scene’ and called the police. Eventhough she has a recording of the incident she was arrested and with her five yr old daughter put out of the house which she owns entirely. She can’t get clothes for herself or daughter and the little girl now commutes 3-4 hrs a day to and from school. The problem is that the confidentiality of medical records do not allow partners or family to be informed and warned of the dangers or advised on how to cope. She is in fear of her life but the powers that be ignored her early calls for help possibly because of his condition, possibly because he’s sued them in the past. They are enablers, helping him to continue his campaign against her, and even bolster him to come up with increasingly bizzarely vindictive, and dangerous plans to get her back for divorcing him.

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  • July 7, 2016 at 4:13 am

    Your article is only scratching the surface of how difficult the life of a family is with a sick spouse.I take exception to your statement that the diagnosis is used to gain an upper hand in a custody battle. You never had to deal with a child that is deeply confused and scarred when the sick parent includes it in their delusional world. So if a stranger would hurt the child you can ask the police to intervene. If your spouse does the same you find it in you to blame the person that wants to stop the abuse. You should not repeat statements that are hurtful to children. Nobody has the right to hurt children. The train of thought that you are presenting I find as distasteful as blaming the victim of a crime for having made it too easy to become a victim.

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  • August 3, 2016 at 2:23 pm

    I divorced my schizophrenic husband two years ago. All these years he begging me to come back. Promise me that he is fine now. Stupid me let him back. All good time last three weeks . Now he doesn’t talk to me at all. He is up and down all night long. He smokes cigarettes constantly. He stop having sex with me. I don’t think he even notice that I’m around. He can’t remember things he did or saying. I’m lost. I don’t know what to do. Every time I try to talk to him he gets so mad saying I don’t believe him that this people/ voices/ doining to him something through radio. He blamed them or me for his behavior. I really don’t know what to do. He gets so mad at me when I say he needs to see a doctor. He don’t think it’s something wrong with him. What I can do. I’m so tired working and clean up after him. He not help me with anything. He just sitting in garage and smoke. Well he started working but when come home he not touch nothing to help me. What to do? I don’t know. Any advice will be appreciated.

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  • May 7, 2017 at 5:11 am

    Would you divorce a helpless spouse who develops a physical handicap, is injured in an accident, or is suffering from cancer or early onset dementia? I wouldn’t. I would honor my vow to take care of them though sickness or health. So I’m shocked that nearly all of the articles and comments on dealing with a mentally ill spouse so easily advocate for divorcing the ill spouse. A marriage is not a business that you simply close if it is failing. Marriage is a lifelong commitment to support and help one another. How disappointing that so many people see divorce as an acceptable alternative when a spouse is suffering from mental illness (provided that the ill spouse is not abusive or dangerous). If you divorce a harmless spouse because he or she is mentally ill, and the spouse subsequently kills herself/himself, then you DID contribute to or trigger the suicide and you SHOULD feel guilty for your callous and selfish decision.

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    • August 7, 2017 at 10:42 am

      I am amused by your perspective, it’s obvious you are not in a relationship with a mentally ill spouse. I have been married 22 years to a bipolar2 spouse. My decision to stay is not an easy one, Im not sure you really understand. It’s not the for the vow “for in sickness and in health”. Harmless is not a word I would use to describe mental illness. Suicide is an internal struggle not someone’s else’s fault It’s a struggle dealing the mental and emotional stress not everyone can endure. Im sure deciding to end a marriage is difficult enough under any circumstance and your comments should be kept to yourself. They were very selfish and callous to make.

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      • August 19, 2017 at 6:41 pm

        Totally agree Sandy, unless someone has gone through this they have no idea and shouldn’t be judging others.

        It was my ex who has ptsd/mde that wanted a Divorce, myself and our grown up kids offered our love and support but it was all rejected. He hooked up with another woman who is an alcoholic and now drinking himself into an early grave. Whilst we all felt sorry for him and his situation his actions ensured we were made homeless and subjected to financial abuse, in the end i had to protect myself from further damage.

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      • December 5, 2017 at 7:48 pm

        I have a spouse who I do believe has dementia or cognitive decline to either frontal temporal lobe problems/metabolic issues or Lewy body. It became evident after she had a series of traumas in her life and us moving back to an area in which she grew up at. She had a massive mental breakdown causing her to loose touch with reality/delusions, hallucinations/depression. Medications were changed and it got somewhat stable but has not really not improved. Last year she wanted five divorces, four legal separations and back to loving me. If it wasn’t for me saying ‘this is not how she thinks’ and try to get her help which her PCP has no understanding of dementia I probably would leave. We been married thirty six years going on thirty seven, I am 63, she will be 59 in two months. If it is a disease it will never improve, only get worst. So I live with it knowing full well that in a couple of years she may never have the ability to care for herself. Last year she said she cheated on me. Ya, that was emotional, but not like her as over her life she was always a modest person. I think it is cycling again in her brain, but what am I going to do. She still loves me, I know that, but a brain injury due to disease or trauma cannot be repaired. So I got to look at me as a caregiver/not a husband anymore.

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