3 thoughts on “Emotional Dysregulation in Partners with Borderline Personality Disorder

  • April 16, 2012 at 8:24 pm

    Am having great difficulty realising/accepting that my true love has BPD. Eggshells indeed- From most wondrous individual to eye darting feckless foe-I still feel I can save her tho’ it nearly destroyed me- Thanks for this from Montréal

  • May 6, 2012 at 8:43 am

    Hello: Thanks for such valuable information. I have had an intense emotional relationship with a BPD person, I just realized a week ago when, after proposing him to formalize our relationship, (which has been demanding for some time), he received me with a jealous rage telling me he doesn’t trust me. Nevertheless, he didn’t tell me clearly what he wants and I really don’t know what’s going on in his mind right now, I just only supposed something wrong !!! He has even made plans for a life together and suddenly: distrust!!! They both are experiencing this great feeling for the first time in our lifes. I felt really confused, because I had already noticed signs of insecurity and low self-esteem in his personality, but now is a big issue. What happened really made me realize that I’m facing, but I love him as he is ( his personal values, his great intelligence and sensitivity), and I wish to help him. After the violent emotional scene to me, I don’t have idea how to approach him, I am worried about another similar reaction, and may be this can make things worse ??? if he is in a crisis stage. Please what could I do to help him? I firmly believe in the power of love.Thanks a lot!!!

    • June 30, 2018 at 2:34 pm

      Dear Elisa, I am NOT a therapist but have been with one for a year due to the BPD of my now exGF. Please take this constructively but please rethink your plans with this person. The abuse ONLY gets worse and worse. It took 6 and a half years for me to realize love ain’t enough. Get into tx now for yourself before it gets worse and he leaves for good. You’ll have a head start for recovery. Unless he’s into tx he is only going to get progressively worse. The pain is unbearable but the Nons get through, the BPD person will always have it unless they are astute enough to get tx.


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