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Do You and Your Partner Need a Sex Therapist?

Do you giggle at the thought of someone having the job title of "sex therapist"? Or do you think those people must have the best job in the world??? (Nudge, wink.)

Get over therapists are like any other psychotherapist, except that they specialize in helping individuals and couples who are having sexual problems. These therapists generally have counseling, social work, or psychology degrees as their training basis, but choose to do additional training...
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Back to the Basics: Sex and SSRIs

When your partner goes on medication for depression, they will likely be prescribed one of the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors--or SSRIs, for short. Those include citalopram (Celexa), escitalopram (Lexapro), fluoxetine (Prozac, Prozac Weekly, Sarafem), paroxetine (Paxil, Paxil CR, Pexeva), sertraline (Zoloft), and fluoxetine combined with the atypical antipsychotic olanzapine (Symbyax). These drugs are popular because they work to block the reabsorption of serotonin in the brain, which allows chemical messages to...
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Sex and Your Partner With Depression

Probably the number one reason patients give for stopping their antidepressant medications are that they have no libido while taking them. They say, "It's bad enough that I'm depressed--I'm not willing to give up my sex life, too!"

For the healthy partners, this presents a conundrum: you want your partner to feel relief from the depression, but hey, you've got needs, too, right?

According to a 2009 USA Today report, the amount of Americans using...
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It’s Not Just for Kids: Your Partner with ADHD (Part 2)

Last week, Part 1 of this entry had some quick facts about adult ADHD, and discussed two of the four top issues that affect the relationships of adults with ADHD: relating to others and success at work.

Today covers the remaining top issues adults with ADHD have in relationships: contributing equally at home and sexual functioning.

3. Contributing equally at home: As mentioned in the previous post, having a partner...
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It’s Not Just For Kids: Your Partner with ADHD (Part 1)

Your partner forgot to pick up the kids at daycare, again.

The dinner with friends was going great until your partner suddenly made a blunt comment that hurt your best friend's feelings.

You try to have a conversation with your partner, but always feel as if their attention is elsewhere, or they get up abruptly and walk away when you are mid-sentence, or they fiddle with whatever is within reach and wiggle in their chair like they...
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Is It Love or Is It Sexual Addiction?: Partners Who Cross the Line

How do you know when your partner's use of pornography is "too much"?

Where is the line between someone just "really liking sex" and needing sex in order to function?

Have you had fights with your partner about their sexual behaviors, with promises from them that they will change, only to have the patterns continue (or escalate)?

If you have found yourself wondering about some of these questions, or others related to your partner's seemingly "excessive" needs around...
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Anxiety and Panic

You, Me and PTSD: Relationships with Partners Who Have Suffered Trauma

I will begin this post by saying an entire blog itself could be (and should be--anyone out there an expert??) dedicated to the topic of PTSD, and the havoc it wreaks on the lives it touches. This blog entry is mostly to acknowledge the partners and relationships that are struggling under the weight of PTSD from past trauma, and it will be a topic I return to from time to time.

When I think of
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Anxiety and Panic

“I Have to Do This”: Your Partner with OCD

You did it again. You didn’t fold the laundry right, you didn’t wash your hands long enough before touching the lettuce to make a salad for dinner, or you threw away what looked to you like trash, but now has your partner rifling through the garbage can to retrieve because it was “important.”

The rest of the day is ruined and your partner can’t relax until they do something to “make it...
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