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Soaking or Sulking: Your Choice!

shutterstock_99831935The Sun is shining where You are or it’s not.

What will you do?

What will I do?

As Partners and BFL: breathingfragilelife inhabiting our particular ecosystems and/or emotional climates in which we dwell and/or are imprisoned…how do we find contentment? How do we find satisfaction? Especially if/when things don’t seem to being going our way or working out as we anticipated or desired? Will we become positive? Or will we be negative? Will we become bitter? Or will we be better?

Will we sulk or will we soak?

1 description: Sulk

1. to be silent and resentful because of a wrong done to one, esp in order to gain sympathy; brood sullenly

2. (often plural) a state or mood of feeling resentful or sullen: he’s in a sulk because he lost the game; he’s got the sulks.

3. Also: sulker a person who sulks

Soak: On-line Thesaurus:

soak – the process of becoming softened and saturated as a consequence of being immersed in water (or other liquid); “a good soak put life back in the wagon”

2. washing something by allowing it to soak

3. to place or keep in liquid in order to saturate.

Soaking or sulking…similar yet not the same: what will You do?? What will you choose? (I’m soaking…my skin is turning prunish. Yet I’m getting clean, refreshed, eh?)

Learning contentment is the difference of being satisfied or dissatisfied with life or relationships/circumstances. Reality changes. Accepting the spot (hard or other) we may find ourselves in and making the best/most of it takes contentment skills. It also takes self-discipline and harnessing desire(s).

Metaphorically, it’s sorta like being a diabetic and having your favorite cake offered to you time and time again. Can you resist? (BTW: I love cake!:) and good thing, I’m not diabetic, huh? Though, I have to curb my sweet tooth and/or other desire(s) that may not be good for me and my personal compassion compass. We all have desires. Which ones are worth cultivating? Which ones are worth abandoning? Which desires are ultimately good for our wellness: emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually? (Cake ain’t easy to hate -lol)

Recently reading some ethically encouraging stuff…Hope you will benefit by these positive points as well: Ancient Text Admonishes:

Hate what is bad, and love what is good. Amos 5:15

“Take, for example, the physical laws that govern energy and matter. People do not complain of being oppressed by those laws. Rather, they appreciate them, recognizing that natural laws are essential for their welfare. […]  The secret, then, to being truly free—being able to do what we desire—is to cultivate the right desires.”

In other words, cultivate desires for what is compassionately good for you and other fragile-life. Compassionate desires (aka ethically upright) do not harm ourselves or encroach on the rights or freedoms of others. So, before we speak or act, it’s important to take into consideration how these words and actions will affect: positively or negatively our Partner, Family, Friend, Neighbor, Global Brother or Sister.

Untouchable, unreachable, unconquerable, impregnable…is that how I would describe my integrity to compassion?

It’s trust and belief in the long-term scope of compassion. I will NOT abandon this value. I will not abandon my compassion coursedon’t try to make me. Nobody makes anyone do anything…that they don’t ultimately want to do.

Temptation(s) abound(s). However, If we abound in agape-unselfish-love…we will continue to choose compassion and wellness over hurtfulness! (We will learn to hate what will harm us or others. We will learn to love what will help us and others.)

Keep soaking up the sun: Positives and Wisdom!:) “It’s wanting what you got”…and you got a lot!

Lighten up aka get rid of anything that weighs you down, depresses or is toxic/negative to your mental, emotional, physical or spiritual health!

Don’t Give Up Your Course of Compassion!

I’m soaking UP!:)

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Soaking or Sulking: Your Choice!

Joan Winifred

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Winifred, J. (2014). Soaking or Sulking: Your Choice!. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 21, 2020, from


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