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Learning to Count Our Days

shutterstock_158444201Greetings Psych Central & Beyond!

I wish You Well, Peace, Happiness and Longevity of Life!

THANK YOU for your precious time. Thank You for reading my blog or should I say “our” blog. Where would writers be without any readers? Where would readers be without any writers?… not reading? Not writing? I guess, we need each other, eh?;)

All life IS interdependent…virtual and otherwise…on-line and off.

IF you follow my blogs with any regularity, (wow, you must be really bored -lol)…

you may know already: how much I love Sundays…usually.

Yet, today, I write with sadness. This afternoon my family and I learned a family friend died in her sleep. It was a (sad) surprise/shock. 🙁

She was VERY: intellectual, spiritual and creative! Smart lady with a strong personality. She had been an attorney as well as jewelry designer/maker and a devoted Mother of 2 exemplary, young men! My girls loved her. I will MISS our time together.:(

I am wearing in remembrance 1 beautiful bracelet she made as I write this…My heart and eyes weep for this great loss… in particular such a loss for her husband and sons. 🙁


shutterstock_166746629 My Friend KIM!

We could talk for HOURS….. and hours…. and hours!…. and laugh (and cry) and laugh some more … our brains bounced together (from topic to topic) to a similar beat and she actually understood me. Nice to be understood (and not misunderstood nor misjudged). A trusted friend understands, eh?

She courageously carried intense pain for many years. A Strong Woman! 🙂

 Now I carry pain for her. Will I be as courageous and/or strong??

Another Sunday, another compassion test? (I feel like I’m turning into a grief expert–oh no! Enough compassion pop quizzes PLEASE!!)

How true these ancient words prove to be:

For an abundance of wisdom brings an abundance of frustration. So that whoever increases knowledge increases pain. (Ecclesiastes 1:18)

I applied my heart to acquire wisdom and to see all the activity happening on the earth, even going without sleep day and night.  (Ecclesiastes 8:16)

Then I considered all the work of the true God, and I realized that mankind cannot comprehend what happens under the sun. No matter how hard men try, they cannot comprehend it. Even if they claim that they are wise enough to know, they cannot really comprehend it. (Ecclesiastes 8:17)


There is hope for whoever is among the living, because a live dog is better off than a dead lion. (Ecclesiastes 9:4)


Whatever your hand finds to do, do with all your might, for there is no work nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom in the Grave, where you are going. (Ecclesiastes 9:10)

I have seen something further under the sun, that the swift do not always win the race, nor do the mighty win the battle, nor do the wise always have the food, nor do the intelligent always have the riches, nor do those with knowledge always have success, because time and unexpected events overtake them all. (Ecclesiastes 9:11)

Better to heed the calm words of the wise than the shouts of the one ruling among fools. (Ecclesiastes 9:18)

I don’t want this blog ending on a sad (or foolish) note.

However, it’s sobering to contemplate a life that no longer exists when you still exist. A time to evaluate a lot of things.

Her life was not meaningless. Your life is not meaningless. My life is not meaningless. Life does have purpose. There is MUCH for which to live!:)

If only we could count a head… aka look forward to brighter days! Please, hold on and never give up no matter how tough it seems! The good, the bad… it’s only temporary. Fleeting.

Hug and cherish your family and friends while they are your family and friends! Life is so very fragile. APPRECIATE.

” The span of our life is 70 years,

Or 80 years if one is especially strong.

But they are filled with trouble and sorrow;

They quickly pass by, and away we fly.

Teach us how to count our days

So that we may acquire a heart of wisdom.” (Psalm 90: 10, 12)

I find these verses of ancient song comforting. A heart of wisdom is essential for happiness, wellness and longevity of life. It’s practical to evaluate. A heart of wisdom enables us to make compassionate choices that benefit all fragile life.

We must wisely use/manage our time aka count our days because time is life… and we can run out of time before we realize.

Let’s not waste precious time on pursuits that rob us of joy, peace and happiness, forgiveness or time spent with loved ones.

I have more to say (no surprise you say)…on this topic of time management… I’m too tired (Oh, and so are You)

and may be ? IF I find time, I’ll write a part 2…no promises though.

I’m not into making promises I can’t keep.

Who knows ? IF I’ll wake up tomorrow… my history, my track record of waking up every morning has been pretty good these past 44 going on 45 years… most likely, I’ll be blessed to experience another morning!🙂

Take Care Dear Readers! Wishing you plenty of time to count…wisely!

and many Happy Mornings!🙂


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Learning to Count Our Days

Joan Winifred

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Winifred, J. (2014). Learning to Count Our Days. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 6, 2020, from


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