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A Partner with Special Needs

shutterstock_97659359(2)Life is precious. Life is privilege. Life is fragile. Life is fleeting!


A special gift from the giver of our life! Special life requires special care, maintenance, sustenance for sustaining.

Every Partner, Person, BreathingFragileLife inhabiting our fragile planet has needs that are special. These needs must be met in order to sustain life. (Obviously, You know Your personal needs.)

In my view of life as precious-special-fragile: we all have certain commonality needs such as food, water, air, shelter, warmth, clothing, love, respect, communication, understanding, education, association, support, spirituality, etc. Then as individuals, we have certain (possibly contrasting) needs that are peculiarly our own. Including unique circumstantial needs.

Young ones have special/specific needs. Mature ones have special/specific needs. Healthy ones have special/specific needs. Unhealthy ones have special/specific needs. Single ones have special/specific needs. Married ones have special/specific needs. If we live in a mine-field or a worn-torn country, of course, we have special needs. Just like if we live in a more peaceful place, we have special/specific needs. Introverts have special/specific needs. Extroverts have special/specific needs. Etc., Etc., Etc…

Boy, aren’t we all special?! and needy -lol:) Yeah, You’re right, I should speak for myself, eh?

(Stop dragging this out joanie and get to some point, already!…and while you’re at it–STOP talking to yourself and start writing something worth reading.)

All of us need Compassion. All of us need forgiveness. All of us need help. All of us need support. All of us need to be and feel safe. Learning to be sensitive (and not indifferent) to each others’ needs and responding promptly to those specific needs is so VERY vital to sustaining life and promoting peacefulness.

Let’s not sugar-coat reality, it’s hard and takes a lot of concerted effort/work on the part of the so-called healthy partner/friend/fragile life to provide what is specially needed for the so-called unhealthy partner/friend/fragile life. We all stumble many times. We make mistakes. To humbly and freely apologize promotes peace. To humbly and freely accept an apology promotes peace. We all need a haven of security namely forgiveness!

Strong emotion can be contagious. Chronic negative emotions/thoughts/anger can be like gangrene. If one wants to survive, the only feasible option left may be amputation. Cut it off. Cut it out! Quickly replace the negativity with positivity before irreparable damage is done to yourself or someone else.

Obviously, I’m not a mind-reader, heart-reader, need-reader…I may not “specifically” know for sure what any fragile life crossing my path on any given day may need. What I do know, IS we are of the same kind…BreathingFragileLife and Every thing needs kindness!

When our needs are not timely met, then it’s hard for any of us to get along. We get upset. Our sense of justice is triggered. Or we may encroach on the rights of others. Some misuse/abuse their freedom or free-will in ways that lead to further suffering for themselves and others in order to meet their particular needs. Learning to get along as a family/brotherhoodofbreathingfragilelife can be quite the challenge, but not insurmountable! It’s inevitable that at times we will be frustrated and disappointed with each other. Or we disappoint ourselves.

Patience and Forgiveness skills must be exemplified, learned, practiced and freely expressed IF we hope for peace in our lives. No partnership or friendship will last long without either. Learning to own our share of responsibility is important as well. All relationships take work, effort, commitment on the part of all parties involved. We must strive to help each other. We must strive to meet each others’ needs when/if possible. We need to be givers. (With too many takers, there will be nothing left. Sadly, selfish non-stop takers are ruining their own lives, the lives of others and our planet.)

Compassionate communication helps. Such as humbly asking how we can help or humbly asking for help.

Most of us like to put our best foot/mouth forward, right? If we are headed somewhere important, we dress accordingly. Or If You’re like me and at times/certain places and among certain people…you need to be taken seriously aka need to look like you know what you’re talking about -lol:)…your choice of dress/grooming may matter. Depending on the occasion/work/recreation/weather or otherwise, we dress appropriately.

When it comes to interacting with a Partner/Friend/Person/Fragile-Life with Special Needs aka: me and/or You and/or All HumanKIND/Breathing-Life: 

Compassion¬†Fashion–WEAR IT!:)


Just as you want men to do to you, do the same way to them.” ~Golden Rule WORKS Well!

“Better is a dish of vegetables where there is love than a fattened bull where there is hatred.” Proverbs 15:17


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A Partner with Special Needs

Joan Winifred

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Winifred, J. (2013). A Partner with Special Needs. Psych Central. Retrieved on June 16, 2019, from


Last updated: 3 Nov 2013
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