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LOVE: a 4 Letter Word Mothers (Should) Use!

shutterstock_150097520Oh, it’s okay baby, don’t cry! (Mother, Mom, Mommy), Mama IS here for You because I LOVE You!

This beautiful word is expressed not only on our lips throughout the day to our kids, but in our daily deeds as we assist our young ones growing to maturity. Maturity doesn’t involve just physical growth, but emotional, mental and spiritual growth as well. As mothers, our choices affect our kids in complicated ways. (Ways we may not fully comprehend at this moment in time due to our own limitations or limitations of science and research.)

Of course, every Mother wants the best for her child. Our choices (especially compassionate ones) hopefully: will have a VERY positive impact on our child’s wellness: mental, emotional, physical, spiritual health!

Partners and Parents need to carefully consider:

  • What we eat and why?
  • What we feed our mind and why?
  • What we listen to and when?
  • How we spend our time?

LOVE the 4 letter word Mothers Should use!

Our speech and conduct rub off on our children. Let’s not knock home schooling;)–every child is home schooled: Mothers (and Fathers) are their children’s first teachers. The quality of said education begins with Mother and Father. When we choose to love and show compassionwe aim to set an example worth imitating.

What are we teaching our kids? We are teaching, even when we don’t think we are teaching! Kids are excellent observers/listeners and quick to pick up on any hypocrisy. So, IF we observe some negative trait, habit, vocabulary word, attitude we don’t much like in our kid(s)…as parents, we need to look at ourselves first. Therein may lay the issue.

Aim High and Kids Will Reach High!

I find it ironic that (some) trash talkers don’t like being trash talked. How can parents expect respect from their kids, IF their language is far from respectful?! If one chooses to use profanity around kids, don’t question where junior gets his (limiting) vocabulary lessons. Then again when the bar is set lowthere is only one direction to go: UP!

As parents, for the sake of our kids’ well-being, we must continue trying  to reach UP!

3 Wise (Ancient) Proverbs: useful to any modern mom/partner/caregiver/friend/b-f-l (breathingfragilelife):

“[…]The one keeping his lips in check is acting discreetly.” (Proverb 10:19)

Listen to counsel and accept discipline, in order that you may become wise in your future.” (Proverb 19:20)

Train up a boy according to the way for him; even when he grows old he will not turn aside from it.” (Proverb 22:6)

Writing this blog is like breastfeeding. (1. Because I want to give my readers the best possible food. 2. Because I care and feel a sense of deep responsibility to You my Dear Readers and Your brain/mind/life! My choice of nursing metaphor is wholesome and runs deep.

As a mother of 4, (3 girls, 1 boy ages: 14, 12, 10, 8)…compassionate choice of putting my kids needs’ above my own– meant me spending a complete decade nursing. (THANKS HUBBY, Chato Stewart Mental Health Humor, for His loving support in this Family endeavor!) Yeah -lol, You did the math correctly: tandem nursing of babies and toddlers; a total immersion in the attachment parenting lifestyle. As long (or as short) as my child needed me: to feed, comfort, love, console, communicate, we cuddled and/or nursed if necessary.

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Compassion education/loving attachment starts from infancy onward. Obviously, we’ve since progressed to cooking together meals and homeschooling/virtual learning, etc. Our kids love cooking with Dad and enjoy other fun, Daddy Adventures.  They share a special bond with their Dad, different from their bond with me. We spend loads of time with our kids. Giving us all ample opportunity to learn to get along, eh? -lol

It’s not always very easy for families to find time together. It’s not always very easy for Mothers to commit to the choice of nursing (in general) or without support. Let’s face it, family life is not always easy especially IF a family member is chronically ill (i.e. Bipolar Disorder or other serious illnesses.) The choices parents have to make are not always easy either. The choices Partners have to make in the wake of health issues: challenging to say the least! However, when LOVE: the 4 letter word we should use, IS used and often, family life can be successful and raising kids in compassionate ways prioritized.

All children need a special bond with each parent. Fathers are so VERY IMPORTANT in the life of their child. It makes me sad:( how some devalue the role of Father while elevating the role of Mother. Fathers bring different, much needed things to the table. Mothers bring different, much needed things to the table. Kids need all these different things from both parents to feel loved, to be secure and to thrive!


 

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LOVE: a 4 Letter Word Mothers (Should) Use!

Joan Winifred


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APA Reference
Winifred, J. (2013). LOVE: a 4 Letter Word Mothers (Should) Use!. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 21, 2018, from https://blogs.psychcentral.com/wellness/2013/08/love-a-4-letter-word-mothers-should-use/

 

Last updated: 27 Aug 2013
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 27 Aug 2013
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