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shutterstock_137283803A post: a bout: P.arlaying paralyzing A.nguishing angst I.ntensifying intensity N.umbing numbness!…yeah, You’re right!…i write a bunch of jibberish…tell me: how do you write past the pain? or to the pain? or away from it? some embrace it…do YOU? how do i hold a porcupine close and NOT bleed?…carefully. As in CARE…(about it or for it) FULLY– only 2 words?!

This post is dedicated to ALL SUFFERERS: aka ALL BEAUTIFULBREATHINGFRAGILELIFE…where do i begin? what do i say? how do i express this?

Breathe deeply, think deeply, meditate deeply, pray deeply, speak deeply, write deeply, feel deeply: pain a simple sample: an unforgettable taste……of?

Paralyzing…anquish of mind, heart, body…intense time of numbing neediness!

(may be??? writing about pain is a selfish attempt to numb my own…No!, this exercise is a “clean room”…always a clean room: the air quality is PURE here: that’s all i breathe!…believe it.)…

1 definition i read: “A sensation of physical discomfort, whether moderate or severe; also acute mental or emotional distress.”

“All creation keeps on groaning together and being in pain together until now.”—Romans 8:22.

Pain the common shared human experience connecting us to each other and expressed with infinite diversity: we all express it everyday…our words, our actions, staying in bed, getting out of bed, the clothes we wear…the music we listen to, the music we make…the poetry we read and write…a common work of humanity: finding healthy pain management that actually works and works well. (Need some anesthesia about now??:)


 “John J. Bonica, perhaps the foremost authority on pain, said: “From the dollars and cents point of view, and from the point of view of human misery, chronic pain is more important than virtually all other health-care problems put together.” excerpt ~More than a Cruel Enemy

Back in ’80’s…”The Nuprin Pain Report on “The High Cost of Pain” showed that 550 million workdays are lost each year in the United States because workers suffer pain of one kind or another. Headaches topped the list with 157 million workdays lost. Bone-joint pains of various kinds ranked second with 108 million lost workdays. Then followed 99 million workdays lost for stomach pains, 89 million for backaches, 58 million for muscle pains, 25 million for menstrual pains, and 15 million for dental pains.”

Check out what the American Academy of Pain Medicine says on-line:

“According to a recent Institute of Medicine Report: Relieving Pain in America: A Blueprint for Transforming Prevention, Care, Education, and Research,  pain is a significant public health problem that costs society at least  $560-$635 billion annually, an amount equal to about $2,000.00 for everyone living in the U.S. This includes the total incremental cost of health care due to pain from ranging between $261 to $300 billion and $297-$336 billion due to lost productivity (based on days of work missed, hours of work lost, and lower wages).”

What’s Your definition of well? How do You manage Your pain? (May be, this post will help a little?)

My management choice: HOPE! cause a life without hope is like a life without love and what’s life without love???

Isn’t that what love/compassion brings to life: HOPE!🙂

Each of us know our personal pain. Each of us has our own set of subjective, nuanced words to best describe the pain we know, the meanings of which we understand from our own life experience. My Dad, Isaac, Ike aka Big Ike…had his own expression to measure “it”:

a pain where a pill can’t reach!” 

Is that how you would describe it? What does your pain feel like?  What does your pain look like? What words do you choose to communicate your pain? It’s hard to find the words, eh? If we find the right words, we are also better able to communicate what we need to help us with our pain. Finding understanding is necessary to better pain management and with understanding come some relief! When one fully understands “pain”…one can learn compassion!:)

Comfort feels so good…i like it better than pain. How about You?? Some look to scientists for relief. Others look to spirituality/God for comfort. Some look to both for better pain management.

The book “Dieu existe? Oui.” (Does God Exist? Yes.) gives this opinion by naturalist Professor Grassé: “A world without God is an absurdity. Man without God loses all signification; maybe he is not even a man anymore. In any case, a man without God is incomplete. I believe that a researcher or scientist who does not accept God is depriving himself of a comprehension of the universe. God is the only key to understanding the world.”

As You know, pain comes in a wide-range and wide-variety of many shades and flavors. From an itch you can’t stop scratching to the onset of labor pangs…when your baby’s head is crowning and your insides are being pushed/ripped out…There’s the pain of a sunburn to a 3rd degree burn…the pain of losing a loved one in death or the pain of losing your healthy mate to a debilitating disease…or the loss of love to betrayal and as Alanis Morissette sings: “You oughta know”… then there is the pain of a parent when a child is seriously injured or sick and the parent cannot alleviate their child’s suffering…well, we can kiss our baby’s boo-boos. Keep kissing boo-boos!:)

Man’s pain is voluminously documented throughout history in countless books, music, movies, poetry…art, comedy, etc.

For example, Paradise Lost the epic by John Milton. Notice this from Wikipedia: Paradise Lost:

In his introduction to the Penguin edition of Paradise Lost, the Milton scholar John Leonard notes, “John Milton was nearly sixty when he published Paradise Lost in 1667…Having gone totally blind in 1652, Milton wrote Paradise Lost entirely through dictation with the help of amanuenses and friends. He also wrote the epic poem while he was often ill, suffering from gout, and despite the fact that he was suffering emotionally after the early death of his second wife, Katherine Woodcock, in 1658, and the death of their infant daughter (though Milton remarried soon after in 1663).[12]

Leonard also notes that Milton “did not at first plan to write a biblical epic.” Since epics were typically written about heroic kings and queens (and with pagan gods), Milton originally envisioned his epic to be based on a legendary English or Saxon king like the legend of King Arthur.

“Milton wanted to be a poet, but the England of his day was in the throes of revolution…Describing his early spiritual interests, Milton wrote: “I began by devoting myself when I was a boy to an earnest study of the Old and New Testaments in their original languages.” Milton came to regard the Holy Scriptures as the only sure guide in moral and spiritual matters. But his examination of the accepted theological works of the day left him thoroughly disappointed. Determined to measure his beliefs strictly “against the yardstick of the Bible,” Milton began listing key scriptures under general headings and quoted Bible texts from these lists.”

“Today, John Milton is best remembered for composing Paradise Lost, a poetic retelling of the Biblical account of man’s fall from perfection. (Genesis, chapter 3) It is primarily this work, first published in 1667, that earned Milton literary fame, especially in the English-speaking world. He later published a sequel entitled Paradise Regained. These poems present God’s original purpose for man—to enjoy perfect life in an earthly paradise—and point to God’s restoration of Paradise on earth through Christ. In Paradise Lost, for example, Michael the archangel foretells the time when Christ will “reward His faithful, and receive them into bliss, whether in heaven or earth, for then the earth shall all be paradise, far happier place than this of Eden, and far happier days.” ~excerpt of article entitled: John Milton’s Lost Treatise

A movie example: what’s worse/more painful: death or

To the Pain:

Quotes from the Princess Bride (on-line):

Prince Humperdinck:   First things first, to the death.
Westley:   No. To the pain.
Prince Humperdinck:   I don’t think I’m quite familiar with that phrase.
Westley:   I’ll explain and I’ll use small words so that you’ll be sure to understand, you warthog faced buffoon.
Prince Humperdinck:   That may be the first time in my life a man has dared insult me.
It won’t be the last. To the pain means the first thing you will lose
will be your feet below the ankles. Then your hands at the wrists. Next
your nose.
Prince Humperdinck:   And then my tongue I suppose, I killed you too quickly the last time. A mistake I don’t mean to duplicate tonight.
Westley:   I wasn’t finished. The next thing you will lose will be your left eye followed by your right.
Prince Humperdinck:   And then my ears, I understand let’s get on with it.
WRONG. Your ears you keep and I’ll tell you why. So that every shriek
of every child at seeing your hideousness will be yours to cherish.
Every babe that weeps at your approach, every woman who cries out, “Dear
God! What is that thing,” will echo in your perfect ears. That is what
to the pain means. It means I leave you in anguish, wallowing in
freakish misery forever.
Prince Humperdinck:   I think you’re bluffing.
It’s possible, Pig, I might be bluffing. It’s conceivable, you
miserable, vomitous mass, that I’m only lying here because I lack the
strength to stand. But, then again… perhaps I have the strength after
[slowly rises and points sword directly at the prince]
Westley:   DROP… YOUR… SWORD!

Prince Humperdinck:  [Humperdinck’s mouth hangs open, drops sword to floor]

Some music strikes a chord, eh?…


“I–I am Yahweh, and besides me there is no savior.” (Isaiah 43:11) and “He (Yahweh) will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.” (Revelation 21:4)








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