Archives for April, 2012

Partners In Wellness with Joan Winifred

Partner Resisting Medication? Myth Busters

The majority of clients who come into my office do not want to take psychiatric medication. I always leave the decision up to them, but as part of my assessment, I always explore with my clients where the resistance is.

Typically, the clients have picked up erroneous information, or had irresponsible doctors prescribing their meds before, resulting in a negative experience. I try to dispel some of the myths that come along with...
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Anxiety and Panic

Is Your Partner Coping Through Retail Therapy?

Nancy’s problems with spending began when her job stress increased. As she felt more anxious and depressed, she found herself turning to shopping as a way to make herself feel better.

At first, the “high” of a new purchase would help her forget her stress, but Nancy found herself spending more and shopping more often. As the bills piled up, she found herself hiding her purchases from her partner, and feeling guilty,...
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Marriage

Going to Couples Therapy? What is Your Goal?

Among the many reasons couples decide to seek therapy—including to learn better communication skills, to improve intimacy, and to heal old wounds—deciding whether or not the relationship is going to survive is the motive for about half.

A recent study from the University of Louisville that studied 249 couples in counseling found that when couples had the goal to improve the relationship, the ultimate outcome was better than those who came to therapy to...
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Marriage

Emotions Running Hot? Avoid Relationship Derailment

My client Cathy has a love/hate relationship with her partner, Julia. When Cathy is in a good mood, the world is perfect, their relationship is wonderful, and everything is “kittens and rainbows.” When Cathy gets upset about something—whether it’s related to Julia, work, or something else—everything becomes “doom and gloom and the worst ever!”
Cathy adores her partner, and values their relationship. However, she is very much controlled by her...
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Marriage

Emotional Dysregulation in Partners with Borderline Personality Disorder

If you have a partner with borderline personality disorder (BPD), the phrase “walking on eggshells” likely defines your life. People with BPD struggle to regulate their emotions, even though the emotions they experience are the same as the rest of us.

The difference is in the intensity of how they feel those emotions. Marsha Linehan, PhD, the founder of dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT), compares those with BPD to third-degree burn...
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Partners

Do You Have a Highly Sensitive Partner?

I recently read the book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain.  She highlights how those who are naturally quieter than the extraverts are often overlooked and not valued, despite the tremendous contributions these people have made in the past (think Dale Carnegie, Al Gore, and Gandhi), and can make in the future.

In her work, Cain draws from the research...
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Marriage

10 Ways to Prevent Couples Counseling

Whoa, a professional therapist is giving tips on how to stay out of her office?!? Yes, yes, I am.

Having said that, I always recommend that if you and/or your partner are having serious struggles with mental health, you consult a professional.

The tips that follow may not be enough to resolve your and your partner’s concerns, but they are a good place to start. They can also be used to supplement what...
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Marriage

3 Simple Ways To Build A Stronger Bond

Having a spouse with a mental illness can be exhausting and frustrating. And this fatigue and exasperation can spill over into your relationship, slowing chipping away at the love, romance and fun times.

Fortunately, though, couples can reclaim their love and romance each day. In Five Good Minutes with the One You Love: 100 Mindful Practices to Deepen & Renew Your Love Every Day, Jeffrey Brantley, MD, and Wendy Millstine, NC, help you learn...
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