Archives for March, 2012

Partners In Wellness with Joan Winifred

Partners in Aftercare

[This guest post is one of several guest posts that will be appearing on our Partners and Wellness blog during the upcoming weeks.]
After therapy, there will be surprises, challenges, and new problems that will test your resolve and your ability to apply your newfound emotional skills to new situations. One of the most important tasks that should take place before you leave therapy, and ideally, as early as possible, is the...
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Depression

Depression in Men

Carl sat in his therapist's office, a softball-sized wad of tissues in his hand, tears streaming down his cheeks. After telling his therapist that his week since his last visit had "been good," he began to cry. He said that he was worried that he didn't really have depression, but that how he felt was just part of who he was, and that his life would never get better.

He also said that he...
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Partners In Wellness with Joan Winifred

Frustrated With Your Partner? Grab a Pen and Paper!

Caregiving is hard, and when you are frustrated, angry, tired, sad, or lonely, the thoughts and feelings you are having can threaten to spill out of you in ways that you may not want. How many times have you said something out of frustration that you instantly regretted? Does your partner bring up things you said out of anger, throwing them back at you when they are feeling upset, too?

A journal is a safe...
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Anxiety and Panic

Is Your Partner’s Phobia Ruining Your Relationship?

Imagine that you had always wanted to go on a dream vacation for your anniversary with your partner, but he is scared of flying, so realizing this dream is impossible.

Or that your partner needs a medical or dental procedure, but her fear of needles and blood is so severe, she chooses to ignore the problem instead.

Or that your partner is afraid of cats, so when you move in together, your beloved cat...
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Bipolar

Is Your Partner “Moody” or Is It Bipolar Disorder?

"One minute, my wife is smiling and joking with me, and the next, she's looking at me like I've grown a second head, and walks away angry. I think she's bipolar."

"My partner has to be never can predict what his mood is going to be, and the littlest things get him upset. But then, a few hours later, he's fine again."

"My coworker never seems to need sleep! She sends me...
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ADHD

When Your Partner AND Your Child Have ADHD

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) can run in families, so it makes sense that if your partner has it, your child might as well. Often, the adult goes undiagnosed until the child develops problems in school, and the assessment process begins for the child. At that point, the adult often realizes that they, too, have similar symptoms that may not have been previously recognized. ADHD is a relatively new diagnosis,...
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Marriage

Take a Technology Timeout to Reduce Relationship Issues

Technology is everywhere: cell phones, iPods, computers, televisions, DVRs filled with recorded shows, and video games all clamor for our time and attention. But at what price to your relationship with your partner? How does having all these gadgets contribute to an anxious household?

We have become slaves to the very products that are supposed to make our lives easier. Theoretically, our phones, laptops, and other devices make it easier to connect with others. That’s...
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Marriage

Partner Socially Clueless? It Could Be Asperger’s

It was Faith's second birthday, and her mom and beloved aunt were ready to give Faith a cupcake with a candle on it to celebrate. Faith's father, Chris, however, was on the phone with the real estate agent, and couldn't be bothered to stop what he was doing to be with his little girl.

Faith's aunt was furious--how could Chris not understand that it was time to focus on his child? Faith was only...
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Marriage

Questions/Comments/Concerns: Connecting With Your Partner

Sometimes the simplest ideas are the most brilliant.

A client of mine was telling me about interactions she sometimes has with her partner that are less than ideal. Because she struggles with anxiety that can get blown out of proportion and results in her snapping at everyone and everything, there are often several incidents during a typical week that can cause tension or hurt feelings between her and her partner.

As we all know,...
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