Archives for May, 2011

ADHD

It’s Not Just for Kids: Your Partner with ADHD (Part 2)

Last week, Part 1 of this entry had some quick facts about adult ADHD, and discussed two of the four top issues that affect the relationships of adults with ADHD: relating to others and success at work.

Today covers the remaining top issues adults with ADHD have in relationships: contributing equally at home and sexual functioning.

3. Contributing equally at home: As mentioned in the previous post, having a partner...
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ADHD

It’s Not Just For Kids: Your Partner with ADHD (Part 1)

Your partner forgot to pick up the kids at daycare, again.

The dinner with friends was going great until your partner suddenly made a blunt comment that hurt your best friend's feelings.

You try to have a conversation with your partner, but always feel as if their attention is elsewhere, or they get up abruptly and walk away when you are mid-sentence, or they fiddle with whatever is within reach and wiggle in their chair like they...
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Marriage

Roller-Coaster Relationship: Your Partner with Borderline Personality Disorder

If you have a partner with borderline personality disorder (BPD), your relationship may look something like this:

Yesterday, in the eyes of your partner, you could do no wrong. Today, everything you do is wrong.
Ten minutes ago, your partner was smiling and happy. Now, they are screaming at the top of their lungs about a perceived snarky comment from you, which was not meant in the way it was interpreted, and household objects are...
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Marriage

Is It Love or Is It Sexual Addiction?: Partners Who Cross the Line

How do you know when your partner's use of pornography is "too much"?

Where is the line between someone just "really liking sex" and needing sex in order to function?

Have you had fights with your partner about their sexual behaviors, with promises from them that they will change, only to have the patterns continue (or escalate)?

If you have found yourself wondering about some of these questions, or others related to your partner's seemingly "excessive" needs around...
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ADHD

Connecting With Others When Your Partner is Ill

A few posts ago, I wrote about whether you should keep your partner's illness a secret. Chances are that you have some pretty strong feelings one way or the other about how much disclosure is necessary, and who needs to know about your private life. But no matter what level of sharing about your partner's illness you feel is appropriate, you still need support and other social outlets. Connecting with others is part...
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Marriage

10 Ways to Improve Your Relationship Through Good Mental Health

Today, May 18, 2011, the American Psychological Association has dedicated the day to blogging about mental health. Obviously, we blog about mental health every day around here on PsychCentral, but in honor of today's celebration, here's a list of 10 ways you can enhance your relationship through good mental health strategies:

Laugh together. Did you know that the older we get, the less we tickle each other? We play less, too. Laughter...
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Marriage

It’s Not Just Teen Girls: What to Know About Your Adult Partner with an Eating Disorder

If you've been thinking this whole time that eating disorders are a "teenager problem," it's okay--you're not alone. Little media attention is given to the exploding number of women (and men!) aged 20+ who struggle with eating disorders, but practitioners and researchers alike are realizing that people outside the "typical" age range of eating disorders are seeking treatment in greater numbers than ever before.

Why are we seeing more adults with eating disorders in treatment? A...
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Marriage

Boundaries Versus Ultimatums: Tips on How to Get What You Need from Your Partner

Effective communication skills can be challenging even in the best of times: tone of voice, choice of words, use of technology vs. face-to-face to deliver the message, emotional circumstances, etc., all affect the message sent and received. When you add to the mix a partner who is experiencing mental illness and a partner who has been dealing with the fallout of the illness, it can be all but impossible to have a conversation...
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Marriage

The When, What, and Why of Meeting With Your Partner’s Therapist

Hopefully, your partner has found a therapist they are working well with, and some signs of change are happening. As the healthy, supportive partner, attending a session of counseling with your partner, or meeting with your partner's therapist alone, called a collateral visit, may provide all parties involved further insight into your partner's journey towards wellness.

Why might meeting with your partner's therapist be a good idea? If you are thinking that you are...
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Anxiety and Panic

You, Me and PTSD: Relationships with Partners Who Have Suffered Trauma

I will begin this post by saying an entire blog itself could be (and should be--anyone out there an expert??) dedicated to the topic of PTSD, and the havoc it wreaks on the lives it touches. This blog entry is mostly to acknowledge the partners and relationships that are struggling under the weight of PTSD from past trauma, and it will be a topic I return to from time to time.

When I think of
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