Talking to yourself with kindness may be hard, maybe even excruciating. Because what automatically spills out sounds more like criticism, judgement, and maybe even hatred.
It often feels like our feelings, the painful ones in particular (of course), will never go away. It's as though you'll feel this way forever.
The new year tends to spark fresh starts. We get excited. We feel energized, motivated, and inspired. We brainstorm a slew of ideas. We set intentions. We clear out clutter. We begin all kinds of projects.
The way we usually set resolutions is rigid, punitive, militant and even callous.
We prepare several months for the holiday season. We make gift lists, and decorate our homes. We shop (and shop and shop), and wrap (and wrap and wrap). We bake and cook and clean. We stand in line to see Santa, and do other magical things. We listen to Christmas or Hanukkah music 24/7. We open our homes to loved ones, and curl up on the couch watching sweet movies.
Of course, you don't need permission from me for anything this holiday season. But just in case you needed to read the words from someone else, here they are:
Since I started writing Weightless (in 2009!), every year around this time, I’ve shared a list of last-minute gifts we can give to our loved ones and ourselves. I’ve combined those lists, updated them and added new ideas.
Writing is medicine. It's the ultimate form of self-care. Because it helps us to connect to, acknowledge, and release our emotions. It gives us perspective and insight so that we can better understand the impact, the lessons, the questions, and the pain. So we can come to terms with all of it, and accept it.