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Navigating Rude Food and Weight-Related Remarks at Your Holiday Meal


Someone---a family member, friend, colleague, acquaintance or even a stranger---comments on what you're eating or how you look. Maybe it's a subtle remark. I've heard about such and such diet. You should give it a try. You know it's good to weigh yourself every week.

Maybe it's downright rude or cruel. Oh, you're having another helping. You sure that's a good idea? Wow, you've put on some weight, or Geez, you've gotten so skinny. I don't...
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When We Pretend It’s All Perfect

You post pictures on Facebook and Instagram with captions that illustrate your flawless life. You post about your wonderful spouse. You post about how #grateful you are. You post about how easy grad school is or how much you love traveling for your job. You share how simple the transition from two kids to three kids has been---and how well they behave and how much they sleep. You post about the fun places...
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Caring for Your Four Kinds of Needs

We have all kinds of needs. Our main needs are physical, mental, emotional and spiritual---and it's important to care for all of them. The best way to do that is to explore and examine. It's to get curious. It's to constantly ask ourselves questions. Big questions like What soothes my soul? and basic questions like Am I thirsty right now?

Because, as Janet Conner beautifully writes in her book Writing Down Your Soul: How to Activate and Listen...
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Creating a Deeply Supportive Self-Care Routine

A self-care routine goes beyond spa days. It stems from reflecting deeply about our needs and our values. It stems from reflecting deeply about who we really are. For instance, author and coach Nancy G. Shapiro includes movement in her self-care routine because it energizes her physically and mentally and calms her emotionally. "Even short bursts of movement and stretching, and stepping outside for a breath of fresh air enlivens both my body...
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Guest Posts

The Power of Practicing Fierce Self-Care—And How to Start



Today, I'm honored to share a guest post by Nancy G. Shapiro, the author of The Book of Calm: Clarity, Compassion and Choice in a Turbulent World. In it, she delves into the practice of "fierce" self-care: what it means (a definition I absolutely love!); why it's so important; and where you can start.

Why Fierce?


The practice of fierce self-care requires each of us to become the protector of our own well-being. As I’ve learned to...
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Why Our Family Triggers Us—And What to Do

A stranger or even a friend makes the same remark to you as a family member. But it's your family member's words that sting the most. Somehow our family has a way of pushing our buttons---and that's because they installed them. Our family also triggers us so intensely because of regression, said therapist Britt Frank. Regression, she said, is returning to a less developed state.

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3 Nourishing Ways to Navigate Family Visits During the Holidays


Today, I'm honored to share an important guest post by Dezryelle Arcieri, a Washington-based therapist and yoga instructor. She provides super helpful tools and exercises to help us get centered and reconnect to our values as we navigate the holiday season. Reconnecting to our values is reconnecting to ourselves. Which, of course, is a pivotal part of self-care.
The holidays can be a joyous, exciting, and fun time, but they can also be challenging...
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