For many of us even the hint of sadness or anger can feel overwhelming. We don't want to go there. So instead we turn away, and pretend we're perfectly fine. We pretend that nothing has happened, and we take out our favorite shovel and start digging, burying whatever remnants of emotions we haven't already hidden away, deep into the ground.
Journaling is a powerful tool for processing our feelings. As I’ve written before, it’s as though each piece of paper we write on absorbs our emotions. It bears their weight; it bears the load—and we start to feel a bit lighter, a bit freer.
Think of yourself as having two parts: One part is a child in need of nurturing; the other is a parent who has the privilege of caring for that child. It's a privilege to take seriously. And one way we take that privilege seriously is to practice self-care on a deeper level.
There are many ways to think of self-care, and many ways to practice it. But at its foundation self-care is noticing and attending to our needs and being kind to ourselves, according to Laura Torres, LPC, a holistic mental health counselor who specializes in self-care, self-compassion, anxiety, perfectionism, relationship issues and highly sensitive people.
What negative beliefs do you hold about yourself? What negative stories have been swirling inside your mind for years? Maybe, you think, there are too many to list.
When you're a caregiver, your own self-care often takes a backseat. Often it feels out of reach. After all, you have serious, important, time-consuming responsibilities, on top of your other serious, important, time-consuming responsibilities, like work, kids, bills, and everything else.
When you're struggling with food and body image issues, you might have no clue how to feel better. You might feel frustrated and overwhelmed. After all, when diet and weight-loss messages are everywhere you turn, how do you make a change? How do you know what changes to make? Where do you start? How can you genuinely nourish yourself?