30 thoughts on “How One Author Learned To Love Her Body & A Giveaway!

  • August 17, 2011 at 8:31 am

    I see myself in photos when I was 15 and 16 and I now see a sensuous, beautiful young woman. Then I thought I was hideous and enormous because of the messages I received about thinness and desireability. 40 years later I am finally comfortable in my clothes.

  • August 17, 2011 at 8:52 am

    My favorite part of the interview was where Kim talks about her body dysmorphia in her teen years. I had the exact same experience and, looking back on photos from my high school and college years, am dumbstruck that I felt the need to crash diet when I had a body that was that thin and beautiful.

  • August 17, 2011 at 9:01 am

    The path to self acceptance has been a slow one for me and I’m still getting there. The biggest thing for me was learning to turn off the negative self talk that I was telling myself all of the time. Turning off that kind of talk has helped to increase my confidence and probably even to ward off depression (I’m prone to becoming depressed but haven’t been for a few years now).

    I’d love to win a copy of the book!

  • August 17, 2011 at 9:11 am

    I learned to love and appreciate my body through my son. After he was born I went through a nasty body-hating period because of all of the changes I had going on post-pregnancy, mental, emotional, and physical. I’ve struggled with an eating disorder most of my life and went back into a full relapse. I eventually sought therapy, which has helped immensely, but I also started watching my son. The little dimples of cellulite that I hated so much were quite cute on him, and I started noticing that my full hips that I hated so were the same hips that belonged to my beautiful and strong grandmother. Now I am working on appreciating my body for getting me here and for the story of my family that it tells.

  • August 17, 2011 at 10:49 am

    I would love to win. I could really use a book like this!

  • August 17, 2011 at 11:13 am

    What an inspiration! I would love to feel comfortable with my body. Well done Kim, good for you. I would love to win the book, I need all the help I can get.

  • August 17, 2011 at 11:53 am

    i love the flower garden analogy. it’s easy to say in a general way that there are different kinds of beauty, but it’s difficult to absorb something like that when you are constantly seeing the SAME incarnation of it in magazine after commercial after billboard, etc. thinking of myself and other women as flowers truly puts it into a different perspective for me.

  • August 17, 2011 at 12:37 pm

    I write not to win a book but to say… I am so happy to read that you love your body because YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! Enjoy your life, yourself and your path!

  • August 17, 2011 at 2:07 pm

    I refuse to let anyone else define me (who are these strangers, anyway!!!)…media types, etc…….I am 64 and still dancing (ballet)….we are all different and valuable!!

  • August 17, 2011 at 2:42 pm

    My coping mechanism is to tune any thoughts of weight out completely. I find if I go on my merry way and seek out moderation in all things I feel better. To focus on weight and the scale only brings about obsession and negative habits.

  • August 17, 2011 at 3:29 pm

    I am in treatment for anorexia. I hate the fact that my life revolves around eating (or not) and exercise. I truly don’t feel like I am living but simply surviving. I don’t want to look back on this time and have regrets. I need to look at life as a gift and live it as if I had only one week left. I am trying to be mindful and see how blessed I am to be able to live this life. Kim is such an inspiration to me.

  • August 17, 2011 at 4:18 pm

    I try to remember to look at my body through my own lense and not through the lense that media and friends or family prescribe for me. When I see something about my body that I don’t like, I ask myself five questions:
    1. Is this a sign that my body is changing?
    2. Can I turn this negative image into a positive sign of change or difference?
    3. What is going on today that is making me feel so critical of myself?
    4. What might happen tomorrow that will make me feel critical?
    5. What do I like about myself today?

  • August 17, 2011 at 5:26 pm

    The flower garden analogy was very impressive to me.

    A good analogy is a flower garden. A daisy is much different from an amaryllis, but they’re both beautiful. Most people have a favorite flower – we’re not all attracted to the same shades and forms. Often we don’t know why one kind of flower grabs us more than others. And when we do have a favorite, we can still appreciate other types of flowers.

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  • August 17, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    How inspiring. I’m on my own similar journey, tho not so far along. I still look down upon my self, but love the concept of merging my fantasy self with my actual self and then imagining my merged life as it could/should be.

  • August 17, 2011 at 8:35 pm

    I thought this was a very inspiring post. I especially enjoyed the part where Kim shared the fact that she uses experiences as a measure of her self-worth and doesn’t let her weight or body image define what she can do. I needed to hear this right now as I’ve gained a significant amount of weight in the past year due to a variety of reasons. Now I struggle with canceling plans and isolating myself because I’m embarrassed by how I look. This will help me to move forward and start living my life again. Thank you so much for this post.

  • August 18, 2011 at 3:33 am

    When working with severely disabled children. I began to appreciate the independance my body gives me – its capacity to walk, sit, stand, lie, breathe, be… how can I hate something that gives me so much based on how it looks?

  • August 18, 2011 at 7:43 am

    “Ugly” is absolutely random, as Kim said. It’s what we believe or were raised to believe that clouds our vision of ourselves and others. Even though I know this intellectually, I still struggle with dysmorphia and have since I was a little girl. I’m going to try experimenting with my daydreams and envisioning my life as I wish it to be (at the size and shape I am now), as Kim suggests. These “aha” moments are portals to a better life.

  • August 18, 2011 at 8:08 am

    Thinking of all the people who have serious medical conditions makes me thankful of my bodies ability to be healthy!

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  • August 18, 2011 at 10:13 am

    In my journey of healing from disordered eating and anorexia nervosa, I’ve found that my best tool to move away from negative body image is to…not think about my body. Instead, I focus on WHO I want to be, what I want to be known for, who the inspiring people are in my life and what it is about them that draws me to them. “being skinny” is never an answer that pops up. When I think about what is truly important to me, I don’t worry about my size or how much I just ate or exercised.

  • August 18, 2011 at 10:30 am

    I’m planning on recommending that my local library purchase this book. A welcome respite from the plethora of diet books they get.

    Accepting my body has been very freeing. I now have no qualms about wearing bike shorts (MUCH more comfortable on long rides). I can accept my husband’s compliments. I’ve allowed myself to eat in a way that nourishes me rather than what I’m “supposed” to eat. Most importantly, I’m happy.

    I can relate to the photo thing. As a pre-teen, I remember hiding rather than having my photo taking and crying my eyes out afterward when forced to be in one.

  • August 18, 2011 at 11:28 am

    I would love to win her book!

    My favorite body image tip is a reminder: The things you do make you beautiful; not the things you put on or do to your body.

  • August 18, 2011 at 3:30 pm

    I remember LOVING swimming as a child, however now I am so uncomfortable with my body that being in swimsuit makes me so self-conscious that I am utterly miserable.
    Kim is right. Those who have passed would cherish the time to experience things that I don’t “allow” myself to take part in. It is sad. One day I hope to enjoy the water again.

  • August 18, 2011 at 3:56 pm

    I think you can still respect and accept your own aesthetics without being a cruel judge to yourself.

    What you experience at size 8 is the same as you do at size 12…Nobody, no comment can prevent you from feeling. You are free to do whatever you want with your own perception of the world and your emotions.

  • August 18, 2011 at 4:44 pm

    “…value my experience of the world over how other people were experiencing me…” Kim, what an inspiration you are! Why, I wonder, can we be so accepting of others yet struggle with self acceptance? Deep into my mid-life years, here I am still way too concerned about what others think of me – especially with the physical changes these middle years bring. At my core, I am neither my appearance nor my body, and the rebel in me refuses to be defined by the media, or society, or even “friends”. A question, with curiosity: what if…I spent as much time nurturing my authentic self – the spiritual, adventurous, creative, connected, funny me – as I do on my appearance? HMMMMM………


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