3 thoughts on “What to Do When Your Inner Critic Is Roaring

  • October 17, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    In my private practice I work both with children and adults. We often talk about the inner critic and ways of identifying him /her. Becoming aware of your inner critic is very important, I find, although I also believe that this critic is part of us.
    You talk about a depersonalization from this critic, recognizing its’ voice but not acknowledging it as part of you, rather someone independent, its’own person with its own will and volition. I would imagine that the idea of change or improvement, if this is the case, is no longer mine since I can’t control things outside of me but only me. Seems that what the author is suggesting is a sort term “fix” rather than a long term solution such as accepting that part of yourself and integrating it.

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  • October 22, 2014 at 4:39 pm

    In my own case, I feel that there are many critical voices or inner critics within me. I do not try to silence them because I think the information and concerns they voice are important to consider. But, I do actively negotiate with them to find out what they are concerned about and why they are so loud at times.

    I like the idea of looking for humor in the experience. I’m trying to be more gentle with myself so I think humor could work well, as long as I don’t resort to ridicule or sarcasm. Being curious and light-hearted seems like a good approach. Most often, when I acknowledge my inner critics and approach them as helpful parts, they will quiet down naturally once they are heard.

    The idea of turning down the volume control made me laugh! That technique could be quite helpful if one is experiencing anxiety or building up to a panic attack. Just being aware of when my inner critics have “taken the reigns” and are dominating my thoughts has been most helpful for me. Focusing inward is quite challenging (probably for others, too) and I like to try new ways of interacting with my inner selves. Thanks for another helpful post.

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    • November 2, 2014 at 11:08 am

      @ productive1, thank you so much for sharing what’s been helpful for you! You make such a great point about looking for humor without letting it turn into sarcasm or ridicule. I’m glad you found the post helpful. 🙂 Tara’s book is just so wise and packed with practical insights.

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