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Reflecting on Our Days, Reflecting on Ourselves

A healthy relationship with ourselves starts with self-reflection. It starts with telling ourselves the truth. Which we start doing by exploring our days, by exploring the smaller and bigger parts of each 24-hour period. Which we start doing by getting still and getting quiet and writing. After all, writing is one of the best ways we can discover ourselves, pick up on patterns, see things we swore weren't there before.

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You Don’t Have to Explain Yourself

I can't attend that event because I'm swamped with work. I know I work from home, which means I can work at any time. But the tasks have been piling up. I probably need to work faster and be more productive. You know I do waste a lot of time ...

I can't help with that because I'm trying to finish this big project. And honestly, I'm not feeling well. I might be coming down...
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A Big Myth About Healthy Body Image

We think that in order to have a healthy body image, we must love our bodies. We assume we must celebrate our physical traits every day. Basically we assume we must love every inch of our skin. We assume that if we don't, if we don't love our hips, for instance, or that weird birthmark on our bellies, or we wish we had thicker hair or we wish that our legs were longer,...
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Celebrating Girls Exactly As They Are—And Celebrating Ourselves

When I found out I was having a girl, I got scared. Because I remember what it's like to be a girl, a teenager, a young woman. I remember vividly the insecurity; the deep desire to look like everyone else but myself; the longing to lose weight, to be pretty, to be popular; the roller-coaster of restricting and bingeing; the pain of rejection; the comparisons and the coming up short. I remember vividly second-guessing everything. I...
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Writing to Finally Express and Stand Up for Yourself


There is a line in Natalie Goldberg's book Writing Down the Bones that is especially meaningful to me: “I write because I kept my mouth shut all my life…." It is meaningful because there have been many times, too many times, too many situations in which I stayed silent when really I needed to speak up. To speak up for my needs, my safety, my desires, my boundaries, my feelings. To stand up for myself.
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