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How to Identify What You Can Control

Yesterday, I published a piece on 75 different things I can control, even though I might not realize it. It's a personal list, but I suggest you create your own list, too. Because it's terrible to feel helpless, to feel like there's nothing you can do. And this is exactly how we can feel when we're going through a difficult situation---when we're in a toxic work environment, when we're in...
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Body Image

The Conditions We Create to Stall Self-Love


“Loving ourselves is a tough one because it often comes with a laundry list of prerequisites,” Vancouver-based therapist Julia Kristina told me.

For many of us, it comes with a very long laundry list. A list that keeps getting longer. A list that stops us from loving ourselves in all sorts of ways.

We tell ourselves, when I graduate with my law degree, I’ll start taking better care of myself, because then I’ll have time...
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Several Ways to Sit with Your Feelings


Sitting with our feelings is not easy. It’s so much easier to reach for our phones or our computers or iPads or remote controls. It's so much easier to reach for anything else. To zone out. To do something mindless. And this impulse, this strong urge is totally understandable. After all, who wants to dwell in discomfort?

"It is hard enough if we were alone in the woods surrounded by nature with no electricity,...
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When You’re Mad at Yourself

You ate several slices of pizza, and barely tasted them. You were too exhausted to get through your entire to-do list. You slept past your alarm and were late to work. Again. You couldn't do your usual 20 push-ups. You're becoming more and more anxious at the grocery store. You find yourself getting angry around the same time every day.

Normally when we overeat, when we aren't as productive as we think we should...
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Reflecting on Our Days, Reflecting on Ourselves

A healthy relationship with ourselves starts with self-reflection. It starts with telling ourselves the truth. Which we start doing by exploring our days, by exploring the smaller and bigger parts of each 24-hour period. Which we start doing by getting still and getting quiet and writing. After all, writing is one of the best ways we can discover ourselves, pick up on patterns, see things we swore weren't there before.

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39 Lessons on Body Image, Well-Being And Life

Tomorrow, July 30th, I'll be celebrating my 35th birthday. Eeeek. Almost every year, I’ve been republishing and revising a version of the below post. In it, I share what I’ve learned about building a positive body image, coping effectively and living a fulfilling, meaningful life in my years on earth thus far. Why 39? Extra lessons for good measure and good luck! 

1. Be you. In all your amazing and unique glory. Trying to be like...
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