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You yearn to be the perfect package. Thick, shiny hair. Thin, muscular frame. Razor-sharp cheekbones. Calm. Confident. Smart. A person who makes everything look effortless; who rarely gets frustrated or flustered; who has productive days every day.
Often we forget that our lives are made up of choices. Our own choices. Instead, we assume that certain things are simply non-negotiable, and we follow suit. We count our calories, watch our portions and work out at the crack of dawn because we assume that's the only way to be healthy. We drink because we assume that's the only way to celebrate and be fun. We buy a big house...
There are many things in life that we assume are mandatory, non-negotiable. We convince ourselves that we absolutely must do them. We convince ourselves that there's no other option but to say yes. Maybe we make these assumptions because we see everyone around us participating in these activities or adopting these perspectives. But we forget that we can choose to include or exclude these actions and approaches in our lives.
So many of us praise and yearn for internal change. We try to be smarter, braver, kinder. We try to be more patient and more forgiving. We try to be more assertive and maybe more adventurous. We try to cultivate our creativity and cope well with our emotions. We try to advance our careers and become better listeners. We try to learn from our missteps and mistakes.
Recently, in this article, I shared a list of 10 questions we can ask ourselves every night. Checking in with ourselves is a powerful way to practice self-care. After all, how can we care for ourselves if we don't know what we need? If we don't know what hurts, scares, motivates, and soothes us? If we don't know our dreams? If we don't know where we stand? If we don't pay attention?
Being an adult in a thin-obsessed society is bad enough. It's hard enough to feel good about yourself when so many sources are telling you that your weight is wrong (and so are you). Being a teen in this kind of society is even trickier.
Body acceptance might seem like an abstract, foreign or empty concept. You might be wondering, Where the heck do I start? Which is understandable. Because that's what happens when we've been blaming or hating our bodies for years. We end up feeling lost. Overwhelmed. Unsure. Hesitant. Hurt. Paralyzed. Petrified. You name
On some Sundays I share links to other pieces on Psych Central and from around the web. This month’s links include everything from quitting the body image wars to practicing gratitude to reducing overwhelm to getting some sleep when you're anxious. Because self-care is comprehensive. I hope you find these helpful. Happy Sunday!