May you stop letting numbers dictate your life, your happiness, your sense of peace, what you eat, how you spend your day (e.g., decide to work out because you need to burn off ______ calories or because you must lose those last _____ lbs.). And most importantly, may you stop letting numbers dictate how you feel about yourself (e.g., I weigh _____ lbs., which means I’m not worthy, which means it’s OK for others to treat me like crap). Instead may you plan your days from a place of self-compassion and curiosity. May you ask yourself, What do I want? and What sounds interesting and fun? and What energizes me? and What do I genuinely enjoy? Instead may you realize your inherent self-worth and surround yourself with people who do, too.
May you let go of the substances, items and people that are no longer serving you. May you stop drinking alcohol if you’ve started relying on it to cope with your pain, or if you’ve realized you simply don’t have room for it in your life. May you get rid of physical clutter that is overwhelming you and stressing you out—anything from diet books to ill-fitting clothes to piles of irrelevant paperwork. May you spend less time with people who are toxic—or maybe no time at all.
May you see your inner beauty.
May you spend more time feeling comfortable in your own skin—through meditating, moving your body, feeling your feelings, getting to know yourself—than trying to change your exterior. May you become better at being yourself.
May you figure out what you can control—and accept what you can’t.
May you regularly examine how you’re doing and what you need, and instead of faking it—I’m totally fine! Things are fantastic!—may you use that energy toward facing your challenges and finding the right support. In fact, may you devote a lot more time, energy and attention to yourself in general.
May you start seeing yourself. May you become more familiar with your face. May you see your eyes.
May you pick resolutions and activities and projects based on what inspires, excites, uplifts and nurtures you. May you find what saves you. Because you deserve it.
May you savor and celebrate the many different kinds of magic all around you. Sunsets. Stars. Sweet apples. Science museums. Sentences that help you feel less alone. Soup that soothes your soul. Your loved ones. Tiny giggles.
May you be softer with yourself. May you forgive yourself faster. May you speak kind words to yourself. I messed up, which feels devastating. It’s upsetting. But I am human. And I can learn from this….I’m struggling today, and that’s OK….
May you be curious with yourself, instead of assuming there’s something terribly, inherently wrong with you. May you embody this beautiful quote from French artist Henri Matisse: “We ought to view ourselves with the same curiosity and openness with which we study a tree, the sky or a thought, because we too are linked to the entire universe.”
May you realize—and remind yourself regularly—that different things work for different people. So if everyone around you is counting calories, only eating cake or pasta on their “cheat days,” restricting themselves to a meal plan, resolving to eat the “good” carbs, weighing themselves weekly, remind yourself that it’s totally, absolutely OK to do your own thing. It’s totally, absolutely OK to opt out.
May you start seeing your needs for what they sincerely are: not interruptions or distractions or inconveniences or obstacles that prevent you from being productive or blasting through your to-do list or doing important things. They are the important things. They are your life.
And may you have whatever you wish for.
And the happiest of new years to you!