Archives for October, 2017
You don't love your body. Some days you barely like it. Some days you wish you had a different body. Maybe on many days you do. And when you do, the frustration starts climbing, twisting and turning, and it feels like you're just going to explode. Or it's a kind of simmer, a low frustration but a frustration that follows you regularly.
It's so easy to get caught up in weighing our food, in weighing ourselves. It's so easy to get caught up in counting calories, in swearing off dessert forever. It's so easy to spend hours cooking food we don't even like because it's on our meal plans, and we're trying to eat "clean."
When we focus so much on our bodies---berating them, hating them, changing them, worrying about them---we naturally focus less on our lives. We naturally focus less on our relationships, on our interests and passions, on our ideas and our creative work. We naturally focus less on our values.
Many of us fear gaining weight. In fact, it is a fear that's hard to avoid, according to Kirsten Belzer, LCSW, a psychotherapist in private practice in Chicago. Because in our culture, the number on the scale is so much more than just a number. It is so much more than a representation of our weight.
Sometimes, we take life very seriously. That’s because life is very serious. It is precious, and fragile. It is filled with responsibilities. But it’s also important to be serious about being silly. Because silliness and play create incredible moments and memories. Silliness and play is how we connect---to others, to ourselves.
Do you feel like every waking moment is packed with something productive and useful? When was the last time you did something solely because it made you smile? Have you played any games lately---like board games or tag? Spontaneously started a dance party or tea party with your family? Does it feel like you're always working or thinking about work or reading some article that tells you how to work better or smarter? Does it feel...