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The Conditions We Create to Stall Self-Love


“Loving ourselves is a tough one because it often comes with a laundry list of prerequisites,” Vancouver-based therapist Julia Kristina told me.

For many of us, it comes with a very long laundry list. A list that keeps getting longer. A list that stops us from loving ourselves in all sorts of ways.

We tell ourselves, when I graduate with my law degree, I’ll start taking better care of myself, because then I’ll have time...
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Several Ways to Sit with Your Feelings


Sitting with our feelings is not easy. It’s so much easier to reach for our phones or our computers or iPads or remote controls. It's so much easier to reach for anything else. To zone out. To do something mindless. And this impulse, this strong urge is totally understandable. After all, who wants to dwell in discomfort?

"It is hard enough if we were alone in the woods surrounded by nature with no electricity,...
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When You’re Mad at Yourself

You ate several slices of pizza, and barely tasted them. You were too exhausted to get through your entire to-do list. You slept past your alarm and were late to work. Again. You couldn't do your usual 20 push-ups. You're becoming more and more anxious at the grocery store. You find yourself getting angry around the same time every day.

Normally when we overeat, when we aren't as productive as we think we should...
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Reflecting on Our Days, Reflecting on Ourselves

A healthy relationship with ourselves starts with self-reflection. It starts with telling ourselves the truth. Which we start doing by exploring our days, by exploring the smaller and bigger parts of each 24-hour period. Which we start doing by getting still and getting quiet and writing. After all, writing is one of the best ways we can discover ourselves, pick up on patterns, see things we swore weren't there before.

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You Don’t Have to Explain Yourself

I can't attend that event because I'm swamped with work. I know I work from home, which means I can work at any time. But the tasks have been piling up. I probably need to work faster and be more productive. You know I do waste a lot of time ...

I can't help with that because I'm trying to finish this big project. And honestly, I'm not feeling well. I might be coming down...
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