One of the books I regularly recommend to readers is Rosie Molinary’s Beautiful You. Because it’s empowering, inspiring and practical. And because it’s necessary. Because we receive messages that tell us we aren’t good enough—but we can become good enough and happy and confident if we do X, Y and Z. If we lose weight. If we change our appearance. If we are productive. If we don’t make any mistakes. If we adhere to certain standards.
These are not supportive (or accurate) messages. For me what’s been tremendously helpful in not consuming and believing these messages is reading words that provide a different, compassionate message. Words that focus on accepting ourselves exactly as we are—and actions that help us connect to that.
Today, I’m happy to share that the second edition of Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self-Acceptance goes on sale. Specifically, the book features accessible, doable daily actions for helping readers maintain a healthy perspective on ourselves and our lives. It helps us navigate self-criticism and prioritize our emotional, physical and spiritual well-being. It helps us build a healthier relationship with ourselves, which is the foundation for everything. Everything.
I asked Rosie to pick one of her favorite excerpts from Beautiful You. Below you’ll find a powerful piece from day 362 all about choosing ourselves. And below that, you’ll find an awesome giveaway!
Day 362: Choose You.
What if you could only hang out with one friend for the rest of your life?
One friend is all you get to see you through the birth cries and the death cries, the celebrations and the losses, the laughter and the tears. One friend.
Now, what if I tell you that this is not just a reflection question. There will be just one person that walks alongside you throughout your whole life. There is going to be one person there for everything. She’s already been chosen. She is you.
Do you treat yourself as well as that friend you chose? Do you give yourself as much self-respect and patience and care as that friend gives you, as you give that friend?
In the end, you will be all that you’ve got. But way before that, even, you are the only one who is always with you. You are the most immediate person you’ve got, and you should have your own back.
You should believe in you, respect you, care for you, treat yourself well. You should matter to you.
What could be worse than spending the rest of your life with a bully, a mean girl, an insensitive disrespectful drag? I really can’t think of anything.
Remember that you’re all you’ve got in every given moment. Let the truth of that bring you home. To you. Let it crystallize anything you still need. We don’t have the time left to keep being mean to ourselves. We don’t have armored souls that make those barbs not matter. We don’t have the luxury of doing the type of damage in minutes that will take years, decades, a lifetime to undo.
What we have are these beautiful spirits, longing to be free. And they can’t be truly free until they know that they will be safe in our world.
Today: Promise to keep your soul safe. Continue to welcome your authenticity into the world, relish in it, and move forward inspired by your newfound loyalty and reverence.
As a radical self-acceptance champion, Rosie Molinary, MFA, uses profound questions and wholehearted connection to empower people to treat themselves well so they can connect with their talents and passions to authentically and intentionally live their purpose and help heal the world.
The author of Beautiful You: A Daily Guide to Radical Self Acceptance (Seal Press) and Hijas Americanas: Beauty, Body Image, and Growing Up Latina (Seal Press), Rosie teaches at the University of North Carolina at Charlotte, serves as a national Dove Self-Esteem Project educator, offers workshops and retreats, and speaks on self-acceptance, body image, self-care, media literacy, the Latina experience, and intentional living around the country. Rosie also serves as a creative catalyst to companies and brands that wish to provide a synergistic, empowered and soulful experience to their clients and employees as they serve the world through workshop and retreat facilitation and consultation.
A committed activist, Rosie helped found HAMMERS, a non-profit initiative to provide emergency home repair for low income families in her community, and Circle de Luz, a non-profit that radically empowers young Latinas by supporting their transformation through extensive mentoring, holistic programming and scholarship funds for further education.
Rosie’s publisher, Seal Press, is generously giving away one copy of Beautiful You. To enter the giveaway, simply share your response to this question in the comments: What’s one thing that’s beautiful about you? Maybe it’s your eyes. Your big heart. Your passion or art making. Your piano playing. Your smile, which resembles your dad’s smile. And if you’re not sure, share something you receive compliments on.
You have until next Tuesday, October 18th, at 11:59 p.m. EST. to comment. Open to U. S. readers only. Good luck! 🙂
Update: Thank you sooo much for everyone’s thoughtful comments! The winner, who was chosen using random.org, is Liz. Congrats, Liz! I’ll be emailing you shortly for your mailing address.
Also, I apologize for posting this a bit late. Last week I actually gave birth to a baby girl, who arrived three weeks early. I won’t be posting as regularly as I normally do. But I have some excellent interviews coming your way, along with other great insights from clinicians and authors. As always, thank you for reading!!