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Self-Care Sunday: Choosing Heart Over Hustle

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Are you rushing a lot? Hustling to get everything done? Do you feel exhausted and depleted? Regularly? Have you forgotten what it feels like to simply sit and do absolutely nothing? Do you play? Do you even remember how to play? When was the last time you wasted time—and didn’t feel an ounce of guilt?

In her beautiful new book Present Over Perfect: Leaving Behind Frantic For a Simpler, More Soulful Way of Living author Shauna Niequist talks about dropping the hustle and letting her heart lead. She talks about giving herself permission to play and purposely waste time. Today, I’m sharing an excerpt from one of the chapters aptly entitled “Learning to Play.”

Maybe these are words that you need to read and digest and internalize. Maybe you, too, are longing for more space in your schedule, for more time with loved ones, for more opportunities to connect to yourself, to nature, to silliness, to pure enjoyment.

Check in with yourself regularly to see what you need. To see if the life you’re living is the life you’d like to be living. To see if your days look the way you want them to look.

Present Over Perfect, Shauna Niequist

Without further ado, here’s the excerpt from Niequist’s Present Over Perfect:

“There are lots of conversations right now about how to do everything better/faster/smarter, how to streamline, multitask, layer, balance, flow, juggle. How to monetize, strategize, and so on. This is good stuff. Necessary stuff. 

But my jam these days is wasting time, playing, becoming aware of that internal engine that always wants to go faster, faster, faster. That engine is not the best part of me. My heart is the best part of me. 

And I’m finding that my heart loves to play. My heart loves to color and draw, loves to dance in the kitchen, loves to shoot baskets, loves to do cartwheels with my nieces in the front yard. 

What would our lives be like if our days were studded by tiny, completely unproductive, silly, nonstrategic, wild and beautiful five-minute breaks, reminders that our days are for loving and learning and laughing, not for pushing and planning, reminders that it’s all about the heart, not about the hustle?” 

Again, remember that it really comes down to you. Maybe you love running around and producing 20 different projects at the same time. Maybe you want to do it all. Maybe you love the juggling, multitasking and strategizing. Or maybe the thought of rushing around and filling most of your minutes with something already makes you miserable.

All of us are different. The key is to figure out what you need. What you want. What makes you feel fulfilled. And proceed with that. And fill your days with that.

Maybe the questions we can ask ourselves are: What does my heart love to do? What does it long to do? Am I doing that now? If not, how can I make my loves and longings happen?

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Self-Care Sunday: Choosing Heart Over Hustle

Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

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APA Reference
Tartakovsky, M. (2016). Self-Care Sunday: Choosing Heart Over Hustle. Psych Central. Retrieved on December 15, 2018, from


Last updated: 14 Aug 2016
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 14 Aug 2016
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