Archives for February, 2016

Body Image

Beyond Weight and Thinness: Exploring What You Really Want

Yesterday, in this post, I talked about the illusion of thinness---the belief that once we lose weight and finally become "thin," we will have everything we've ever wanted. Our lives will be beautiful. We will finally be worthy of love, care and attention. We can finally wear comfortable, stunning clothes. We can finally treat ourselves to delicious meals and kind habits. We will finally have it all.

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The Illusion of Thinness

When we're thin, everything will finally arrange itself into so much beauty that we'll cry from all the joy. We'll start waking up excited. We'll start feeling fulfilled. We'll finally be confident. We'll finally feel calm and at peace. People's harsh words will no longer cut through us. We'll no longer second-guess ourselves. We'll no longer feel alone. We'll no longer feel left out or like we...
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Navigating a Culture That Promotes Guilt Around Food

I regularly see posts on social media and pieces elsewhere about food and guilt. Posts that say if you "splurge" occasionally, you have no reason to feel guilty. If you eat dessert once or twice a week, that's OK, too. Usually. If you're exercising and eating healthy, then you have no reason to feel guilty either. Most of the time. I've seen comments that say, "Yes! You're...
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Self-Care Sunday: Disconnecting from Our Devices and Reconnecting to Our Lives

We take our devices---namely our phones---everywhere with us: to dinner, to bed (so they're the first and last things we see before slumber), even to the bathroom. But at least for me, this is a (too) noisy way to navigate the world. When I check my phone in the mornings, in bed, my mind starts to feel packed: packed with information from social media and websites I've...
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Culture

A Reminder for Quiet Voices

Maybe your voice doesn't roar. It doesn't stick its arm straight up---with conviction---in a classroom. It doesn't impatiently wave its hand. It has more questions than answers. It doesn't stand on the stage with a microphone. It never made the debate team.

Maybe on most days your voice is in the corner at the back of the room. Maybe on most days your voice is a whisper. So faint that...
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Body Image

Loving Thoughts Aren’t Required for Treating Your Body with Love

For some of us loving our bodies sounds like a lovely thought but not a realistic one. Because when you've spent years bashing your body and seeing it as a roadblock, a boulder, a huge obstacle that keeps you from getting what you want, it's hard. Maybe even impossible. But, as I've written before on Weightless, I believe we can still act in kind ways even if we don't have kind...
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Culture

Embracing Your Emotions

For many years during many times I was disconnected from my emotions. I might've been terrified inside, but I pretended that I was OK. I might've been angry with how I was being treated, but I swallowed the frustration and buried it deep. I got so used to ignoring my feelings that others just assumed I was unemotional or indifferent or simply very easy-going and calm.

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Self-Care Sunday: 15 Nourishing Ways to Spend Any Day

Last year, in this post, I shared 15 ways you might spend your Sunday. I shared everything from carving out down time to eating mindfully to exploring your personal definition of self-care. Today, I'm sharing 15 more ideas for savoring a wonderful day, filled with the activities, objects and people that nourish you. The day doesn't have to be Sunday. It can be any day of the...
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