We need to know what we want, what makes us happy, what’s troubling us, what’s truly on our minds and in our hearts in order to lead a meaningful life and have meaningful relationships. This requires listening to ourselves, taking the time to pause and check in. And it requires getting honest with ourselves. Bare bones honest.
Here’s a list of questions to help you get honest — to explore your true self, to reconnect with your heart:
- As I lie in bed in the morning, how do I feel about the day? What thoughts are running through my head?
- What am I trying to forget?
- What am I missing?
- Where do I need support?
- Might it help to see a therapist?
- Who am I when no one is looking?
- What do I want to do when no one is around?
- What do I want to say when no one is around?
- What’s bothering me?
- Do I accept myself overall?
- What am I not admitting to myself?
- Are the beliefs I have about myself actually helping me? Are they inspiring me to build a fulfilling life?
- Have I been listening to others at the expense of my own voice?
- What prerequisites or conditions do I set for practicing self-care? (As in “I need to do X before I can relax” or “I can’t set boundaries until I lose weight, which is when I think I’ll actually deserve respect or love.”)
- What needs or dreams have I been afraid to say out loud?
- Does my home feel like home?
- Am I treating my body, my mind, myself with respect?
- Do I ever feel lonely? When? Why?
- What am I criticizing myself about?
- What would I like my life to look like?
This week on my creativity blog I also explored how to get honest with ourselves when no one is watching. Because, of course, we are different, even if just a bit, when we are with others, and when we are alone. You’ll find journal prompts and questions to delve into who you really are.