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Self-Care Sunday: Creating What We Need

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Recently, on my creativity blog I wrote about creating every day for 100 days straight. I think this is important because in creating, we get to know ourselves better. We learn what fascinates and inspires us. We learn about our thoughts and even our fears.

For instance, through my writing, I’m able to identify my concerns and self-doubts. Once abstract, scary entities become concrete, tangible objects I can explore, unpack and address.

We learn about our tendencies and rhythms. For instance, I know that I prefer to write slowly, rereading my words, deliberating whether they adequately describe what I’m thinking and feeling. Plus, I hate feeling rushed.

In other words, through creating, we connect to ourselves.

We listen to the whispers of our hearts and souls. We pay closer attention — possibly for the only time that day.

What can you create today that feels good and fulfills your needs (or wants or wishes)?

It might help to list your needs first and then consider how you can create something that meets those needs. Or simply ask yourself: What do I need right now? or What am I missing in my life? Then let your answer guide your creation.

Here are some examples of meeting a need by making:

  • You’ve been feeling anxious lately, and you need some quiet and calm. So you start drawing a different mandala every day in your notebook. Or you complete this sentence every day: “Today calm means __________” or “My body creates calm by __________.”
  • You’re feeling restless, even bored, so you realize you want to challenge yourself. You start creating something you never thought you could create. You give yourself just 10 minutes, so you don’t get paralyzed by perfectionism.
  • You’re wrestling with a tricky question — maybe it concerns a relationship or your career or your spirituality. It’s a question that doesn’t require an immediate answer, but instead regular reflection. So you decide to use a different medium to explore different answers. One day you keep the question in mind as you doodle. Another day you journal about one potential answer. On a third day you record yourself talking about the question. On a fourth day you list the pros and cons. On a fifth day you sing about it. On the sixth day you dance for 5 minutes, and see if another answer arises.
  • You realize you’ve never really experimented and explored in the kitchen. So you decide to create a new dish every day, something small but fresh. One day it’s a sandwich with avocado, which you’ve actually never tried. Another day it’s a salad with wild salmon. On the third day it’s an ice cream sandwich. On the last day you invent your own signature dish.
  • You’ve been working a lot lately, which you don’t mind doing. But you realize that something vital is missing from your life: Play. So every day you play in different ways, with different “toys.” One day you play with words. Another day you play basketball outside. A third day you try a board game. On the fourth day you doodle with crayons.
  • You need reminders of what’s truly important, because the busyness is getting to you and your priorities are being neglected. So every day you write something vital you need to remember or a favorite quote on a Post-It note. Then you put it somewhere in your home, car, office and any other place you frequently inhabit.
  • You need more fun movement in your life. Every day, you dance for 10 minutes to different genres. One day it’s songs from a musical. Another day it’s country music. On a third day it’s oldies. On a fourth day it’s R&B. On some days you journal after.

What can you create every day for 100 days that meets one of your needs, wants or wishes?

Self-Care Sunday: Creating What We Need

Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Margarita is an associate editor at She writes about everything from taking compassionate care of yourself at any weight, shape, and size, to coping healthfully with difficult emotions. Her goal is to give readers practical, empowering tips to better their lives, and to remind you that whatever you're struggling with, you're never, ever alone.

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Tartakovsky, M. (2015). Self-Care Sunday: Creating What We Need. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 20, 2020, from


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