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Archives for April, 2015

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When You’re Super Tired With No Vacation in Sight

Lately, I've been tired. Really tired. Long to-do lists. Lots of writing. Lots of worries. There are no catastrophes or terrible concerns. My brain simply feels stalled from too much doing and going, in need of a long break. And long breaks aren't available. At least not yet. I imagine this is how parents (or anyone in a demanding job) feel. Likely very often.

So I thought it'd be helpful to make...
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The Power of Self-Care

When I practice self-care, I am myself. The veil of overwhelm lifts and reveals the core of me. I am silly, playful, compassionate, curious, understanding, patient and energetic. I'm still imperfect. I still make mistakes. I still stumble and struggle. But my body and mind reconnect. We're no longer two separate beings, both miserable and holding our breaths.

In other words, when I get enough sleep, eat nutrient-rich foods, move...
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Repairing the Relationship With Ourselves

Forgiving ourselves for a mistake or wrongdoing is often harder than forgiving others. We wonder why we made such a stupid, ridiculous, careless mistake. We know better! Did we have a temporary lapse in judgment? What were we thinking? How could we?

We pummel ourselves with questions. We ruminate about our offense or failure. We feel guilt and shame. We call ourselves names. We go over the many actions we...
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Self-Care Sunday: Pen A Love Note

One of the prompts in Susannah's April Love photo challenge was "love note to self." The above was my love note, which I posted on Instagram. I'm not sure where this belief originated from, but I've always thought that I needed to earn most things.

I needed to earn rest by being productive. I needed to earn a man's love by being thin. I...
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Love Yourself Anyway

Some of us grew up in abusive households, where we were torn down every single day. Where we were explicitly told that we are unworthy and unlovable.

Some of us grew up in healthier households, but were bullied in school for our weight, looks or who we are.

Some of us grew up in households where weight was synonymous with self-worth, where certain foods were forbidden and insults about appearance...
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A Powerful Body Image Book for Kids

Today, I’m excited and honored to share my interview with Judith Matz and Elizabeth Patch, creators of the powerful kids book Amanda's Big Dream. It tells the story of a girl who dreams of a solo in the Spring Ice Skating Show. But her confidence plummets when her skating coach makes a comment about her weight.

I’ve known Judith and Elizabeth for several years now, and have featured their important work here on...
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20 Questions for Exploring Unconditional Self-Love

Yesterday, we explored what unconditional self-love looks like. Today, I'm sharing some questions we can ask ourselves to start (or keep) loving ourselves unconditionally. Because I personally find it helpful to divide something as big as self-love into its many parts. I find it helpful to have prompts (like questions) to dive into and think through. One word. One sentence at a time. I hope you might, too.

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What It Means to Love Ourselves Unconditionally

Lately, I've been thinking about self-love and what it means to love ourselves unconditionally. What does this really look like on a day-to-day basis?

I think of loving ourselves unconditionally as loving others unconditionally, such as our parents, partners, kids and close friends.

When we get into arguments, we resolve them. When they make mistakes, we forgive them. When they forget how beautiful they are, we remind them. I think this is what unconditional...
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