Yesterday, I wrote about the different ways we can be kind to ourselves no matter the holiday season we’re having.Today, I’m sharing other ways we can practice self-compassion.
- Validating your emotions (in other words, acknowledging and accepting them).
- Reaching out to others we trust — whether it’s our spouse, sibling, a support group or a therapist.
- Asking loved ones for support and help with something you need. They might say no. But the chances are likely 50/50. Of course, not asking is a definitive no every time.
- Reminding yourself that you’re having a human experience, no matter what you’re feeling, as Lea Seigen Shinraku told me for this piece.
- Putting your hands to your heart or trying any physical gesture.
- Writing down quotes (like the above) that remind you that you’re worthy, and re-reading them.
- Writing how you’d like to be kind to yourself today and this month.
- Turning down the volume on whatever your inner critic is saying, or seeking out the humor in their words.
- Hunting for humor in all sorts of moments.
- Paying attention to your body’s physical sensations and signals, such as hunger, fullness, fatigue, and responding as best as you can under the circumstances, and forgiving yourself when you inevitably stray.
- Seeking out and creating your own opportunities to play — to make snowmen, watch funny films, play boardgames, recreate childhood traditions, make greeting cards, cut out snowflakes for your windows, sing holiday music at the top of your lungs.
- Not getting caught up in ridiculous, shaming “tips” for eating this holiday season.
- Getting curious about what’s happening, instead of blaming, criticizing or berating yourself — digging deeper as though you are a scientist gathering data.
- Setting some rock-solid boundaries.
- Asking ourselves: What do I need right now in this very moment?
Have a wonderful, compassion-filled Saturday! Tomorrow, I’ll be sharing a self-care tip that’s all about play.