Archives for October, 2014

Body Image

Dear Body: A Letter of Apology

Dear Body,

This isn't the first time this happened. Years ago, weeks ago, you issued the same pleas in the form of an aching back. First it started with a pinch, a whisper. This week it was an all-out roar.

The act of bending down was dicey. Walking fully upright didn't feel very good. Rolling over in bed took effort (and produced pain). Walking too quickly triggered spasms (and a shout of "ouch!" inside my...
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Self-Care Sunday: Exploring Who You’ve Been


In addition to sharing links to others’ posts on self-care (along with a few of my own) in these “Self-Care Sunday” posts, I’m also occasionally sharing a small tip or idea for taking kinder care of ourselves.
Right now I'm reading Wild by Cheryl Strayed. (I know. I'm always late to the party.) In the beginning of the book, she talks about all the things she's been.

She writes: "I'd been so...
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Questions to Ask Ourselves for Practicing Self-Care

This morning I was reading Mara's newsletter (I highly recommend subscribing, which you can do here). In it, she mentions the simple question we can ask ourselves when practicing self-care: What do I need?

It's a question we ask every day, several times a day.

I love this because sometimes we complicate self-care. We get caught up in shoulds and checking off tasks. We equate self-care with specific activities...
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Self-Care Sunday 10.19.14


In this new series I share links to all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to expressing our creativity (which goes hand in hand with self-discovery) to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build...
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What to Do When Your Inner Critic Is Roaring

A few days ago, in this post, I shared the many qualities that make up our inner critics, from Tara Mohr's powerful book Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message. Because our inner critic is very different from our core self.


As Tara writes, "You are not the critical voice. You are the person aware of the critical voice. You are the person feeling perplexed by it...
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How to Distinguish Your Core Self From Your Inner Critic

Each of us has an inner critic. In fact, we're hardwired for one, according to Tara Mohr in her fantastic book Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message.

She describes the inner critic as an expression of our safety instinct. It's the part of us that yearns to stay safe from dangers like hurt, failure, disappointment and rejection.
And it's a part that we often confuse with our core selves. We assume that the cruel comments...
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A Helpful Way to Think Of Your Thoughts

Years ago, I used to believe my cruel thoughts wholeheartedly. One reason was because I assumed they were true blue facts. Another reason was because I worried that I was cheating if I didn't agree with these negative thoughts.

I was somehow doing something wrong if I let them slip by without fully consuming them. I would be letting myself off the hook. I would be taking the easy...
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World Mental Health Day: On Stigma


Today, is World Mental Health Day. In honor of this day, I'm talking about stigma and seeking professional support. Learn more about this day, and read other pieces here.
When psychologist Deborah Serani, PsyD, was diagnosed with depression, her initial relief turned into shame. As she writes in her book Living with Depression:
…I felt inadequate and embarrassed by my diagnosis. I knew that society feared anything that strayed from the norm,...
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