Archives for September, 2014

Body Image Boosters

Self-Care Sunday 9.28.14


This is a new series on Weightless that includes all kinds of posts, which explore taking kinder care of ourselves — from appreciating our bodies to getting to know ourselves better to feeling our feelings to saying no to saying yes to savoring supportive, healthy relationships.

Because self-care helps us build a more positive body image. Because self-care helps us build fulfilling, satisfying lives. Because self-care simply feels good!

I hope you find these...
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What to Remember When You Feel Terrible About Your Body

I think it's key to feel our feelings -- whatever the feeling that comes up. All feelings are valid. So if you're feeling like crap about your body, then you're feeling like crap about your body.

That's OK.

It's something to acknowledge, accept and feel -- instead of beating yourself up for beating yourself up.

But sometimes these feelings and thoughts stick around too long. And they start dictating our decisions to not take kind care...
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On Self-Doubt And Small Steps

Rachel Eddins, one of my favorite experts to interview for Psych Central, shared a powerful story for a piece I'm writing on self-doubt:

For years her client believed she was unworthy, which held her back in many areas of her life. It was a story created for her by someone else. It was a story that followed her for her most recent predicament: She needed to find a new job.

When she and...
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Forgiving Ourselves

This weekend I took out my journal and wrote a kind of letter to myself. I started with these words: I forgive

I wrote down the things I am ready to forgive myself for (and a few things I am not). Maybe you, too, want to focus on forgiveness, and write about what you're ready to let go.

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The Opportunity in Every Moment

My whole life I've leaned toward all-or-nothing thinking. Black or white. Binge or restrict. Terrible day or terrific.

In my mind I was either the energizer bunny or a sloth. I was either beautiful or blah. And how could I be beautiful if I was only pretty sometimes?

If I ate too much, I'd think F that, my diet is ruined! and pile on the extra helpings. I...
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On Judging Ourselves And Feeling Painful Emotions

I think one reason we have an unhealthy relationship with food and ourselves -- eating 'til we're uncomfortably stuffed, restricting ourselves, hurling insults, not practicing compassionate self-care -- is because of judgment.

Specifically, we judge ourselves for all sorts of things. We judge our appearance. We judge our mistakes. We cling to shoulds that fuel self-judgment and keep us stuck.

I should weigh less. I should wear a size 4. I should eat less....
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Safety First: On Blossoming, Embracing Our Bodies And Practicing Self-Care

This week I talked about creating a safe space to listen to ourselves, without judgment or criticism. Because it can be scary to explore our needs and wants. Because for many of us we're doing this for the first time.

For the first time, we're shining the spotlight on ourselves. We're asking questions like: What do I need to feel better? What do I want to do today? What makes...
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