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25 More Statements for Speaking Kindly to Ourselves

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On Tuesday I shared 25 compassionate statements we can say to ourselves, inspired by Joyce’s beautiful post. Today, I’m sharing 25 more statements.

As I wrote in my other post, when speaking these statements to yourself, try to use a gentle, soft, caring voice, as though you are speaking to a child or the person you love most in this world.

This might feel strange or uncomfortable at first. But give it a try. Pick statements that resonate with you — statements that feel true and real.

  1. My weight doesn’t dictate my worth. I am worthy. Always. (As Geneen Roth has said, “It’s never been true, not anywhere at any time, that the value of a soul, of a human spirit, is dependent on a number on a scale.”)
  2. I am listening. I have a voice that deserves to speak. I can’t make others listen. But I can listen. Fully.
  3. I don’t need to focus on my weight. I can focus directly on my well-being and engage in habits that nourish me from the inside out — from getting restful sleep to moving my body to eating nutrient-rich foods to feeling my feelings to journaling.
  4. My negative thoughts aren’t a reflection of who I am. They’re not truth. They’re a habit.
  5. I am sorry I haven’t treated myself with the respect and kindness I deserve. I’m working on changing this.
  6. “My work is not me. The outcome doesn’t define or determine anything. No struggle, only focus.”
  7. I can start pursuing my dreams at any time. I don’t need to wait ’til I lose weight, or ’til I fit into a certain size (or outfit).
  8. I can support myself by …
  9. My body always deserves love, care and compassion. It doesn’t matter what size I am. It doesn’t matter if I lifted 5-lb dumb bells, 25 lbs or no lbs. It doesn’t matter whether I can walk 10 miles or 2. I don’t need to earn kind words or activities.
  10. When I feel afraid and I’m moving past my comfort zone, I’ll just put on my cape.
  11. “The things that make me different are the things that make me.” (Truth from A.A. Milne.)
  12. I’m giving myself permission to … play, sleep in, wake up early, read all day, veg out on the couch, try a new yoga class, say no, say yes, dance, savor each bite of this delicious sandwich outside (and not at my desk).
  13. I can rewrite the rules I’ve created for myself a long time ago.
  14. I can rewrite my story — a story that honors the truth and serves me.
  15. This feeling won’t last forever.
  16. Loving my body helps me take better care of it.
  17. The kindest thing I can do for myself right now is …
  18. I am good whether I eat a cupcake or salad, whether I work out today or not.
  19. Right now it’s hard to be kind to myself. Really hard. I acknowledge this. So I’ll just focus on doing something I enjoy, something that brings me calm or joy. Plus, movement can motivate our minds to follow.
  20. I am grateful for my body because …
  21. “We are built to make mistakes, coded for error.” (Truth from Lewis Thomas.)
  22. I accept this about myself …
  23. What I’m really afraid of is … And that’s OK. And I’m going to work on it.
  24. I can love myself exactly as I am, just like I love others, without prerequisites or conditions.
  25. I can begin here. I can begin wherever I am, wherever I’ve been. I can begin today. In this moment.
25 More Statements for Speaking Kindly to Ourselves

Margarita Tartakovsky, MS

Margarita is an associate editor at She writes about everything from taking compassionate care of yourself at any weight, shape, and size, to coping healthfully with difficult emotions. Her goal is to give readers practical, empowering tips to better their lives, and to remind you that whatever you're struggling with, you're never, ever alone.

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Tartakovsky, M. (2014). 25 More Statements for Speaking Kindly to Ourselves. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 30, 2020, from


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