Here’s part two of my interview with Mara Glatzel, a self-coach who writes the blog Medicinal Marzipan. She just released her beautiful e-book Body Loving Homework: Writing Prompts for Cultivating Self-Love.
Below, we chatted some more about the book. She also shared her thoughts on what self-love is and what it isn’t, along with how we can cultivate self-love.
Q: What do you think is the biggest myth about self-love?
A: That there is a definitive endpoint – like a race that we are running and once we cross the finish line, we will be done for life. Self-love is the daily process of becoming who you already are.
It is about recognizing the truths that lie in your heart, and encouraging them to shine in the light of day. It is about learning to ask for what you need, out loud, in the presence of others.
It is about making the choice to love ourselves despite our perceived flaws. It is about trusting that our bodies and our intuitions will, over the course of our lives, lead us in the right direction.
It is about believing that we have the right answer when it comes to what we need to become our best selves.
It is about being the expert to our own experiences, and reserving the right to change our minds as we learn and grow.
Q: What’s one of your favorite prompts from your book?
A: My favorite prompts in the book are, “How do I best like to be loved?” and “If I were truly honest, I would admit that I’m afraid of…” Both of these prompts are ones that I return to, and which continue to provide me with unlimited data about who I am in the world, what my fears are, and how I can soften into the love around me.
So often, we are taught that we should be strong, that we shouldn’t admit our fears, or that we should be happy if someone loves us – these prompts allow for the room to wonder about how I best feel love and what I need to be become my best self.
Q: What’s one way readers can cultivate self-love today?
A: You don’t need this book to cultivate self-love today, though it may help spark some imagination and reinforce your belief that you are oh-so-deserving of all of the love you can muster.
All you need is a pen, piece of paper, and a desire to know yourself better. Write about those moments when you’ve felt as though all of your buttons are being pushed, simultaneously.
Write about how it feels in your body when you are brave or courageous. Write about what fear feels like. Write about your ideal day.
Allow your writing to provide you with a portal into looking at your life from a different perspective – one where you are the author and you decide how you see yourself.
Write about all of the best parts of yourself, the weird parts, the things that only you know. Invite yourself to play around on the page, writing things that you hope to someday become.
Start before you’re ready. You are deserving of love and attention right this second. Don’t wait or look for permission from others – begin today.
Q: Anything else you’d like readers to know?
A: Do you know how fantastic you are? I mean, really fantastic, down to your toes and your strangeness and all those things you secretly suspect no one would love you if they knew? I want you to know that even though I’ve never met you, I am certain of how much you have to offer the world.
I believe in your excellence so whole-heartedly, that I wouldn’t hesitate for a single second in telling you that you deserve the very best life possible. You want a relationship that is forever and breaks your heart into a million happy pieces every morning?
You want a job that you hop out of bed ecstatic to begin? You want a relationship with your body that is comfortable and safe?
You deserve that, and it is waiting for you. All you have to do is decide to believe that you are worth it.
Mara Glatzel, MSW, works with women who are ready to create the lives they want — and deserve. She’s also a writer, and her blog — Medicinal Marzipan — has inspired thousands of women to heal their relationships with their bodies, and treat themselves with relentless compassion. Catch up with her on facebook, twitter, or join her body-loving mailing list for bi-monthly secret swapping and insider news.
Thanks so much, Mara, for your wise and inspiring words!!
Don’t forget to enter to win a copy of Mara’s book. We’re giving away two copies! All the details are on this post.