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The Freedom Of Not Dieting

Dieting is saturated in shame and judgment. But those aren't the only cons to restricting your intake.

Many people think that dieting will keep their eating in control. That they need these rules and some kind of structure to keep them "eating right" or "eating healthy." And they think that giving up dieting will make them feel out of control and all over the place.

But it's actually quite the opposite: Dieting...
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Body Image

Committing To A Body Image Contract

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Yesterday I talked about Susan Albers's book Eating Mindfully: How to End Mindless Eating & Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food and featured her valuable idea of committing to a "mindful eating contract."

This got me thinking about what a body image contract might look like, too.

While I think it's important to be flexible and curious, I do think spelling out what a...
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Body Image

2 Powerful Ways To Ditch Dieting

"The dieting lifestyle is akin to taking a knife and cutting the connection that is your body's only line of communication with your head," writes clinical psychologist Susan Albers, PsyD, in her book Eating Mindfully: How to End Mindless Eating & Enjoy a Balanced Relationship with Food. 

In other words, "Diets can inhibit your ability to accurately decode your body's messages and feedback," she says. (Like your hunger and satiety...
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Body Image

The Art Of Listening To Your Body

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Lately, in addition to going to Pilates classes at my gym, I've been doing cardio kickboxing and TRX, which are pretty intense (and very fun). They get my heart rate up, and I can feel the negative energy, thoughts and ruminations just ooze out of me.

For me, exercise is also a great myth-buster. That's because ever since I was little, my...
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Body Image Boosters

Body Image Booster: Using Realistic Mantras

Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!

Got a tip for improving body image? Email me at mtartakovsky at gmail dot com, and I’ll be happy to feature it. I’d love to hear from you!
I've written before about the power of mantras in boosting our body image. But...
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Body Image

A Simple Tip For Diminishing Self-Doubt

When we're dissatisfied with our bodies, that seems to be the only thing we can focus on. It's like we take out our magnifying glass, poring over and spotlighting all of our supposed "flaws." Our lives may even start to revolve around the dissatisfaction.

Soon, we go from being kind, hardworking, smart and caring people to being the woman with the wide hips or the huge thighs or the big belly.

Our minds start to...
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Binge Eating

Connecting To Your Self-Compassion

When you're eating away your emotions and you start feeling the heaviness of shame, the last thing you probably want to do is connect to your self-compassion. The last thing you probably want to do is be kinder to yourself or comfort yourself.

When I'd stuff my feelings with food, I felt confused, out of control, embarrassed and alone. And it's funny that it's in those very moments that I needed to crank up the...
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Body Image

The Power Of Ignoring Your Inner Critic

Today I wanted to do something a little different and share a poem I originally wrote for my personal blog. Even though I've largely gotten over my weight worries and body image issues, it's interesting to see the traces of insecurities that still remain.

I've talked before about how my past appearance-based self-doubts morphed into other insecurities.

But I've only briefly mentioned my iffiness about my looks in general and my not-so-thick...
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