Every Monday features a tip, activity, inspiring quote or some other tidbit that helps boost your body image, whether directly or indirectly — and hopefully kick-starts the week on a positive note!
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I believed in Santa until I was about nine. Yes, that’s right. (And, in fact, I still do.)
The holidays are all about our beliefs in something, our religious beliefs, our beliefs in love, compassion, family, friendship and generosity.
Our beliefs, of course, can color our perspective on life, ourselves and our actions. So, today, I thought we’d dig deeper and examine our body image beliefs.
Maybe these are positive beliefs (I believe that I am beautiful). Maybe these are negative beliefs (I believe that my body is unattractive). Maybe these are shoulds or unrealistic — and damaging — expectations (I believe that my body needs to be thinner, more muscular and …I believe that I need to exercise X number of hours a week to achieve that).
Take the time to examine your beliefs, and ask yourself why you believe what you believe. Is it because of society? Your family or friends? Where are these beliefs coming from?
And how are they serving you? In other words, are they contributing to your well-being or dismantling it?
My beliefs used to look like this and you can only imagine how I felt and how I (mis)treated myself:
I believed that I had to be mistake-free.
I believed that my body was only attractive when I was thin.
I believed that my body deserved TLC only if I was thin.
I believed that I was unworthy if I didn’t look good.
I believed that exercise was strictly for weight loss and punishing yourself for eating non-diet foods.
I believed that I deserved to be loved if I came in the perfect physical package.
I believed that my body was an enemy, a saboteur that stood in the way of my chances of being skinny.
Now my beliefs look like this:
I believe that my worth isn’t wrapped up in my weight, size, shape or any other outward appearance.
I believe that my body is amazing. It’s an efficient machine and a piece of art. (If I need a reminder, I just look at the diverse body shapes painted by talented artists.)
I believe that my body deserves to be well taken care of, regardless of how it looks.
I believe that I’m fallible and I try my best to forgive myself when I’ve made mistakes.
I believe that physical activities and food are meant to be enjoyed.
I believe that my heart is what matters.
I believe that I’m deserving of respect, always & forever.
What do you believe?