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I was inspired by Jenna’s post yesterday at Eat Live Run about the 25 things she’s learned in her 25 years.

Since I’m the big 2-8, I figured I’d list 28 things that I know to be true both about body image and life.

Be sure to check out Jenna’s post! It’s wise and hilarious.

I really enjoyed writing this. (Hopefully, you’ll enjoy reading it! 🙂 )

1. Forget about being clever or cool. Just strive to be you. (Pretending has never worked for me. Trust me, I tried, but I just end up feeling and looking really awkward.)

2. Eat what your heart, mind and body desire. Sure, sometimes, it’s tough to tell, but if you truly listen, you’ll hear what you want.

3. Do what makes you feel comfortable – not what others say (unless, of course, it’s something self-destructive).

4. Don’t compare yourself to others, whether it’s looks, academics, accomplishments, how clean and pristine their house is, how happy their marriage is and what an amazing blogger they are. (I battle with this tooth and nail almost every day. But it’s so not worth it.)

5. Even if you have trouble deciding the seemingly small stuff, like what you want to eat for dinner (I can take 10 minutes to read a menu and then another 5 asking the server about how they like the food and whether I can make a few substitutions), learn to become more decisive.

Because you know what? Deep down, you do know what you want. You just might be used to a) letting others take the reins b) silencing yourself or c) being afraid to voice your opinion.

6. Just because someone offers you a compliment doesn’t mean you need to drool all over them. A compliment doesn’t validate your looks, your intelligence, your feelings or your figure.

While it’s nice to get them, compliments don’t make or break who you are. I’m learning this one very slowly.

7. It’s fine to eat chocolate every day. Doing so doesn’t make you a bad person, a diet failure, a glutton or a person doomed to an unhealthy and horrible life.

8. You’re beautiful. Period.

9. Figure out what you love, hold on to it and never let go.

10. Self-care is not selfish; it’s key to mental health.

11. Don’t wait to do anything you want to do until you lose weight. Do. It. Now. (You’ll thank me later. 🙂 )

12. Celebrate yourself and your loved ones – often! (In fact, call or email someone you love right now.)

13. Don’t let anxiety or fear of the unknown stop you from following your dreams.

14. You have to stand for something.

15. Sleep is not over-rated.

16. But perfection is.

17. A diet is not a magic elixir that leads to everything you want.

18. Success looks easy, but it takes a lot of work, sweat, tears, late nights and early mornings. And the road is sometimes paved with nails.

19. Don’t let anyone define what success is for you. Like thinness, this is just another society-created blueprint. Like thinness, it can leave you feeling miserable trying to attain and maintain it. Remember you’re the only who has to live your life, day in and day out.

20. Take the time to express yourself creatively, whatever that might be. It’s so worth it.

21. Honesty really is the best policy.

22. It’s perfectly OK to spend hours on pinterest.

23. It’s also perfectly OK to spend the whole day in your pajamas with your face in a Nook (umm, I mean book).

24. Live life with your own voice.

25. You can’t change people’s feelings and you can rarely change their minds.

26. A new pair of shoes can bring happiness. (OK, maybe not, but they can brighten your day…though not always.)

27. Being thin has nothing to do with being beautiful. Being yourself does.

28. It all boils down to self-acceptance and self-love. Do everything with these as your foundation.

What things do you know to be true about body image or life in general? What lessons have you learned? What did you think was true years ago but turned out to be false? What did you think would bring you happiness but didn’t?